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So, um... can we discuss this?
in BNOTB
I know lots of you are probably in bed by now, but I'll leave this here for tomorrow.
She's going in to get lipo, and while in the doc's office, her H notices the breast implants and suggests she do those with or instead of the lipo. She's actually considering it and lots of other people on the board are all, "Yeah, do it!" or "Do you have any good reasons not to?"
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63069842.aspx
Thoughts/opinions?
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Re: So, um... can we discuss this?
Where to even begin? Why are boobs a gift to her H? I have not encountered a man who preferred fake boobs (then again, they live in LA). And the talk of not giving BJs because she hates oral? uhhhh ummm uhh wut.
I find the whole thing odd but maybe it's just the culture there.
I'd be hurt if my H suggested I get implants.
It's not something I'd do "just for funsies" since I was already getting lipo. Odd.
I guess it doesn't bother her, but it would really bother me if my H suggested I have a surgery. Although she's going to have surgery anyway, this is still a different one with more pain, more recovery time, chance of not liking it, and just a big decision in general. She doesn't seem interested and would be doing it for him...I feel like cosmetic surgery should be something you only do for yourself if you want it, not anyone else.
I think it's just a different prospective than us.
I'm a HUGE fan of natural. Whereas she's already getting lipo so the thought of another procedure is no biggie. It seems like she's well informed of the risks and the time off of work. This isn't something I would do for myself but I don't think less of her for talking/planning it out.
As a person who went from a DD to a B and is now a C, I'd be PISSED if H mentioned it, even jokingly.
The reason I got a reduction is because I am 5'5" with a relatively small frame and was a DD. I looked odd and had a lot of back problems.
I spent 2 years trying to work out and trying to get rid of them naturally. It didn't work out so I talked to my doctor and it was deemed medically necessary that I have it done. I was 19. I spent two full years thinking of if I wanted it. I couldn't be happier that I did.
Now I would be mad because H loves me for me and he would never suggest that to me. I think the fact that he would want me to change me would piss me off.
Your story, IMO, is a justified reason for surgery. Going out on a whim and saying "well, I'm getting lipo - why not add bigger tits while I'm under?" seems so odd to me. Then again, I know nothing about love. My H only loves me for me and could not care less if I never wore makeup again and he would never suggest surgery for his pleasure. (He does enjoy my smooth legs though...)
Yeah. If it was on a whim, I wouldn't be happy with the results.
But she wanted to get the lipo when her H didn't want her to have any procedure.
He finally got his head around it, and when they went in for a pre-appointment (whatever they're called) he was looking at the fake boobs and told her "I love you the way you are, but if you want to get this done that would be cool" (my understanding).
It's not like he was criticizing her body, or saying she had to get them done.
I don't even think she's going to go through with it, she was just weighing her options.
I don't see the big deal. It's not like he was all "do it or I'll divorce you, BECAUSE YOU AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME RIGHT NOW". It was merely a suggestion, and I could see it being a guy thing.."oh, well, she's already going for surgery and will have to recover, so might as well do both at once"...and she even said she doesn't really care about her boobs one way or the other.
I'm not attacking anyone's marriage, and this is SOLELY based on MY marriage, but DH and I are comfortable enough with each other that if he suggested it, I wouldn't be upset or take it as something wrong with me needs fixing. Maybe that's kind of how things are with them? And obviously cosmetic surgery isn't a subject they can't discuss or else she wouldn't be getting lipo.
That's just Elle for you. She drives a porshe and has the "dream" life.
If she wants to get them to make her h happy then let her. It's none of our business. We aren't paying for it, nor are we sleeping with her husband.
Just my 2 cents.
Eh, I know lots of people who don't think of plastic surgery as a major deal. It's the getting their teeth cleaned or something, you know?