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FI vent
I must begin with the fact that I love this man very much. And I always will. Having said that, he's making me crazy tonight! As soon as he got home today he asked if I could go get groceries and bring Q so that he could nap before he went out with his friends. I am fine with the with most of this. I don't mind doing the grocery run, and I really don't mind bringing LO out with me usually, but he wanted me to go at 6, when Safeway here is busiest and I have a pounding sinus headache. At least he could have looked after Q while I went for 45 minutes! After all that, he went out with his friends til about 10 and brought one of them home to meet the baby (who I had just put down) with NO warning. He only stayed a few, but I could have used at least a couple minutes notice to make myself presentable! When his friend left, F said for me to take some nyquil and go to bed, that he would handle Q for the night so I could rest (I'll give him that) BUT right after saying that he asked me to do 3 or 4 different things that he "couldn't do with the baby" Yeah right, babe, welcome to my world. I joked with him that if he was the one staying home all day he'd go hungry if he couldn't eat with the little one in his arms! I think he got it after that. Anywho... maybe my stuffy snotty self is overreacting, but I needed to get it off my chest! Sorry for the long vent!
ETA: The best part was when he came home 5 minutes after leaving because he forgot his wallet, and I was changing baby Q, who decided to poo all over my hand. F didn't even offer to help for one minute. Just ran right out the door. Grrr.
Re: FI vent
I'm sorry. I'm sure tensions are pretty high because adjusting to having a new baby is probably pretty major. I don't really have any advice, except talk to your H and tell him how you're feeling. otherwise, he may never know.. and don't do accuse him, just let him know what is happening for you..
I hope things get better asap.
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I agree. I'm pretty fed up again tonight. =/
I'm sorry
I really hope you can have a productive conversation about this. The best advice I ever got (from my dad) was to think about what you want the outcome to be, simple but often overlooked - this helps you avoid saying things just to satisfy and itch or out of anger, sort of a 'keep your eyes on the prize' type thing. It will help you say exactly what you mean and want to say rather than just being upset. Good luck 
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