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Awkward
My little sister is 19 y/o. She and her longtime boyfriend just had a messy breakup. She didn't tell me about the breakup. NBD, we have kind of an on again/off again relationship and I guess this is one of the times she doesn't feel like leaning on me.
Her XBF was the one who told me about their breakup. He sent me a message over FB asking if he could come over and talk. He wants someone to comfort him. I have no idea why in the world he wants it to be me. I could count on one hand the amount of times I've talked to the boy.
It feels weird, awkward, and vaguely inappropriate. I think I aught to tell him no, but I'm not sure how.
I've considered lying. Telling him that DH is the jealous type and he feels uncomfortable with me being alone with a single guy, no matter if there isn't a chance we'd do something. (This would be a huge lie because DH is far from the jealous type. In fact I'm not sure he's capable of being jealous.)
Re: Awkward
I had an ex that did this to my family members. My parents, my grandma, etc.
Tell him that you do not feel that it is appropriate. No further explaination.
EDIT: It's a control tactic. He wants you to be on his side, either so you can convince her that to get back together OR so he can hold it over her head that you are on his side.
Should I tell my sister he requested it?
Honestly, I would. My parents didn't tell me when it happened, and I felt a bit betrayed.
I'm in the 'he's trying to make you side w/ him/distance yo ufrom sissy so she doesn' have support/etc" camp.
Tell him "You're nice and all, but sister is my SISTER. If I'm supporting someone, it's her. Please contact people in your own support network for this"
Ignore his message and tell your sister about it.
You have no obligation to this person.
I would probably just ignore it, too.
You owe him nothing and it is inappropriate.
I'm glad your sister took care of it. That's really awkward!
My little sister is not exactly a long-term commitment kind of girl but everytime she has a new boyfriend, she introduces him to the family and then within a week sends a FB "suggestion" that we friend him. Then when they break up a couple months later I get a text/email telling me that I need to unfriend him immediately.
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