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can I b!+ch for a moment? this is long sorry
I had a long day at work yesterdsy. It was just busy and I was happy to get home. DH runs out the door as soon as I get home. (he has a part time job) What ever I knew he was going to. Well he gets done with work and him and his buddy walk through the door. This is at 9:00 p.m. I was watching T.V. My kids had been in bed for a little less then an hour. They both were still up with the lights on playing in their room. So I get up to go tell them for about the tenth time lights out it's time for sleep. When I get back in to the living room DH's friend is sitting in my spot and had changed the channel. So I walk in to the kitchen to grab a bite to eat. I was slaming stuff aroud cause I was pissed off about his rude friend. (childish I know) DH comes in like what's your problem? He asked if I was O.K. and I told him no. I sat at the table and ate my food and DH looks at his friend like well I'm going to bed I'll call you later this week or whatever then his friend left. I looked at DH like your friend is RUDE! and I'm done.
This guy comes over all the time over stays his welcome eats my food (with out asking) he brings his Girlfriend that I cannot stand to my house. I'm just done with his rudeness. You don't go over to some one else's house and offer your s/o something to drink out of your host's fridge with out your host having offered it. When was the last time you went over to some one's house and just changed the t.v.station. because they were watching something that you didn't want to watch. I don't know why it got to me so bad last night but I told DH he needed to talk to his friend about it. It's not his place it's ours. Don't be rude as fuuuuuck in my home please.
am I compleatly out of my mind? I have been known to overreact when I'm p.m.s.ing. What would you have done? I think it's rude,not the end of the world but RUDE.
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Re: can I b!+ch for a moment? this is long sorry
Tell your husband that you don't want his friend coming over unless you give prior approval. If your H wants to hang out with him so bad, they can go to the guy's place.
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I think if we're friends, make yourself at home in my house, especially in regards to drinks. But, no one has ever come into my home that I have not offered something to eat or drink, or at least not without it being some type of oversight.
If these things bother you, speak to your husband about them. If they continue to happen, and you've spoken to him, then it's your husband's fault, not the friend's...
This.
But I think the difference is I'm not bothered by my H's friends (I'm also friends with them anyway). And if I was watching something in that room, I probably would have gone to our bedroom or loft to watch if they guys were going to hang out for a bit. IDK, it wouldn't bother me if they helped themselves to our food/beer, but again we have that kind of relationship with all of our friends. First time you visit, you're a guest (i.e. I'll offer stuff and get it); and visits after that, help yourself.
I agree with this. Though I would be annoyed if on a week night my husband came home with an unannounced friend, especially one with a history of being rude. The t.v. thing also probably would not have bothered me too much, but I also would probably just go into another room and watch t.v. and avoid the confrontation.
As for being the SO over and offering her a drink, I feel like it is kind of rude for the host not to offer anything, whether or not they like the other person. This is just how I would approach the situation, not offense ment.
That being said, if he's friend is a azzhole and rude in general - I'd talk to YH about hanging out with him somewhere else.
The not asking would bother me. Eating your food and inviting people over to your home without asking is rude, IMO. Taking over the TV without asking would probably have been my final straw as well.
We want ppl to feel comfortable in our home and they can eat, drink, and watch tv all they want, but our friends have manners and ask first.
ETA: Also, like pp's said, I offer drinks to anyone who comes into my home. However, to me, this seems like it's not about whether he has something to drink, but more about him acting like your house is his house without any regards to you or your H.
I don't blame you. Personally, I like to have my alone time in the evenings with or without FI. I'm very territorial, so this would upset me too.
If he's your DH's friend, definitely talk to DH and calmly explain why you reacted the way you did and why exactly his friend bothers you. Ask him to relay the message to his buddy. He should understand and respect your views.
Well, you're more than able to set the rules in your own home and maybe this just needs a little discussion and compromise.
My only "requirement" is that I'm given advance notice if M wants to bring someone over, and it's really just b/c one friend usually doesn't even get to our house until 10 PM or so and they stay up till all hours playing video games. I just like to know ahead of time b/c if I am having a bad day at work, I tend to to express it in weird ways (like being annoyed that the friend is over so late). This way, if he tells me, I have to keep my feelings in check, otherwise I look like a jerk.
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Mine calls first; There are times, even with people I like, that I don't want anybody over.
Sometimes I need my peace and my space.
..I'm also not subtle when I'm pissed