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Gaming addiction
Hey ladies, I'm a semi-regular on here and this is obviously an AE because I need some advice.
When I was talking to my counselor recently she told me she believes my H may have a video game addiction. She asked me to do some more research into it and get back to her to talk about an action plan.
I think I'm pretty much in shock right now, I keep trying to justify things so that it isn't true in my head. But I also know she's probably right.
My biggest thing right now is that I feel like I'm going behind Hs back to do research and being phony to him when I'm all happy around him. I really love him and will stick with him through this. But I can't help but feel guilty and deceitful. Is this normal?
Has anyone every been through something like this?
Does anyone have good resources I could look at to see if he really does fall into this category?
Thanks for your time, I really appreciate it.
I may end up DDing.
Re: Gaming addiction
How did she come to the conclusion that your DH has a gaming addiction? What's going on in your marriage? How does gaming affect your marriage?
Have you two established gaming rules beyond the 2 hour week day limit?
Does he see his gaming as a problem?
You can't change his behavior for him.
Well it definitely sounds to me like you have a problem here, but how is actually diagnosising a gaming addiction going to help you? Sure you can "diagnosis" it, but he has to be the one willing to admit it and want to change himself. You are not going to be able to change this behavior.
Was he like this before you all got married?
What do you think a discussion about this is going to achieve? Have you tried to talk to him about this before? Has he been receptive to listening your feelings?
Did you get my last response? I don't know if you deleted while I was typing?
The gist was that I would set him up to fail.
I did, Thank you!