Trouble in Paradise
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Interrobang
Hey, how's everything going with you and Mr. Bang?
I know last week was your anniversary, but you mentioned some TIP with your mom. Did you guys do anything?
I hope everything is going good, lately I know you've mentioned feeling down and blah.
Hope this doesn't come off stalkerish, but I read your blog and I like you!
Re: Interrobang
Aww, thanks Calle! I really appreciate you asking.
Mr. Bang and I are doing well, at the base.
But it has been a rough few weeks.
We got together fairly quickly after ending other relationships and at the time, didn't seem to think this was dangerous. I think what happened is that we assumed because we knew each other so well and so long, and knew this was what we wanted, that it didn't matter. But some of that is coming up to haunt us and we're having to sort through it.
We have had some communication TIP, most of which centered around me being afraid to tell him I wanted to go do some stuff on weekends that didn't involve him and the little dude. I feel bad, because he never gets a break, as he has the little dude every weekend. We're both tired and burned out, but I have the option of taking a day off and he doesn't. We've sorted that out pretty well. We're also going to negotiate a weekend "off" with the little dude's mom. I doubt she's open to re-negotiating the actual schedule right now, but we need a little bit of flexibility.
I've been having some winter blues and feeling unmotivated and blah, we don't have a lot of extra money or time, and that has been wearing us down.
The thing with my mom had me quite frustrated and concerned, but I'm trying not to stress about it. We addressed it head on and will continue to do so. I'm going to let her know, if this happens again, that either she can back off or we won't be doing family gatherings. That was really our first test of presenting a unified front, and it stressed me out more than I expected it to. When I was married, my mom always sided with my ex, and I never really felt like XH and I were our own family unit. So treating situations like this as if Mr. Bang and I are a family unit is new.
And the ex thing I was all tense about - Mr. Bang and my ex-non-BF in the same room on Saturday - went fine. This is the "ex" who I was FWB with for 2 years and wanted to get serious but he didn't, and a few months ago he asked me to meet up for "coffee" - which used to mean "sex" - and Mr. Bang was understandably less than impressed that this guy thought it was a good idea to invite me out for coffee knowing I had a boyfriend. On Saturday we attended an Irish wake for a mutual friend's father, so Mr. Bang and ex-non-BF were bound to at least see one another, and I didn't really think either of them would start something, but I felt weird about it, unsure how to handle it. Should I introduce them, avoid ex-non-BF, or what? But it was fine. Ex-non-BF didn't approach us, and we had a good time. Mr. Bang told me afterwards that he had been unsure how he'd feel, but he was fine, and now just feels a little bit bad for the guy.
And we're planning a Valentine/anniversary dinner out, hopefully this Friday if we can get reservations - I have to call today - so that will be fun.
Ugh, sorry so ridiculously long. But again, thank you for asking
Glad to hear you guys are growing together and moving forward. I can't even imagine the stress of a new relationship plus a kid! You seem to be handling it well.
Thanks for the update!