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Re: Disrespectful Roommate/Best Friend
Is she paying rent? There can be legal ramifications from trying to restrict access to property she is renting. And she's entitled to have her boyfriend over.
You have the right to demand no one go into your space. If a lock on the bedroom door makes you feel better, fine. Have you tried telling the guy that he can't sleep in your room?
My thought is that if there are this many problems before you are even living together, I doubt this arrangement is going to work out long term. That said, I don't think it was disrespectful for her to what to celebrate her datingversary rather than talking to you about this. What was the problem with waiting a day? More, it's silly to try to kick her out if she's said she'd move out in less than a week.
i'm still a little confused by this scenario.
who has legal rights to have residence there? (who is paying rent, who has signed a lease?)
sounds like a real cluster.
Living together would have doomed your friendship, given all the issues you encountered before you even moved in. You seem like two very personalities: she's laid-back about boundaries and other things in ways that you are not.
If you still want to be friends, let the dust settle after she leaves and reach out to her.
Don't move in. Find somewhere else to live.
She sounds very flippant about everything- respecting you, your space, even communicating with you. This thing was doomed before it even began.
Oh, and am I the only one who lol'd at "curable STD"?
Who celebrates a 10month anniversary? Really?
Quit letting yourself be a doormat. This is your sister's house, right? Is your friend paying rent? If not, save yourself the frustration and tell her to move out. Also, try showing your face and telling this other "friend" she can't sleep in your room. That's YOUR room. I'm surprised you haven't gone over and faced this in person.
If you have a bed there, why can't you sleep there?
Totally! All of this! Maybe I just have really rigid boundaries, but I wouldn't let any of this shiit go down and it all sounds incredibly f'ed up.