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Curious - non-clicky poll - how often do you see SO?

If you are in a relationship, how often do you see each other? This is of course assuming that you don't live together. Do you spend weekends together? Days and nights? Weekends only? I'm just curious. I know that there isn't a "norm", I'm just wondering what everyone else does.
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Re: Curious - non-clicky poll - how often do you see SO?

  • We don't *technically* live together...but, we spend every night together, with very rare exceptions.  We spend weeknights at my house and weekends at his, usually.  We spend probably 3/4 of our weekend time together, often with other friends, too.  So, ya, we see each other a lot.
  • Well, I'm sure that this is irrelevant to the question since SO and I live 1100 miles apart, but I see him every 4-6 weeks typically.  This time, it will be almost 10 weeks between visits Crying
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  • With my XBF, we saw each other 6 out of 7 days. Also we would only hang out on the weeknights and weekend nights since he worked 7 days a week during the day. It was a LOT and I was not ready for it. I felt like I didnt have enough free time and I was suffocating, which is just one of the many reasons I ended it.

    I think for me, ideal would be 3-4 nights a week once in a steady serious relationship and as the time goes on, probably more. 

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  • Before we lived together, we would spend the weekends together and usually one night (or sometimes two) a week together.
  • Well, here's the thing.  BF is a bartender at a place that I frequent, which is right near my work.  I'm there a lot for happy hour/dinner with various friends, so I'm around him, but it's not exactly quality time.  He does usually stop by after his shift for a while -- I'm sleepy and wonky, but he likes to come over to kiss me goodnight and just decompress for a little.

    On weekends, we generally spend Friday nights together, Saturday afternoons doing our own thing, Saturday late night together (he's got a radio show that goes until 11 p.m. on Saturdays) and a good portion of Sunday.

     It's tough having opposite schedules, but we make it work.

    So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.

  • Before we lived together I would be at his place probably 4-5 nights in a row, then spend 2-3 nights at home. It was mostly a Friday through Monday or Tuesday thing, then the other nights at my place. We usually wouldn't see each other on those weeknights where I was at my place. I think we were around the 8 or 9 month mark when we were doing this.

    Before that it was just weekend nights that I would spend at his place (and I was also "living" there on the weekends), then probably one weeknight where we would get together. I would say that was when we were in the 6 to 8/9 month range.

  • Back when BF and I first started dating, we'd see each other about twice a week.  After a while, this eventually bumped up to a couple of times on weeknights (no sleepovers) and all weekend.  It provided a good balance.  Now we live together and it's smooth sailing.  I still see my girlfriends and have alone time.   
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  • We usually see each other 1-2 times during the week and spend the weekends together.
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  • Like StartingGov, I am in a LDR too! We see eachother about every 2-3 weeks Crying

  • We're two hours apart so I guess you could call it a LDR... we're going on 2.5 weeks of not seeing each other... It sucks! We usually try to see each other once a week, but we've been busy with traveling and other commitments.

    He did invite me to spend four days with him next week to try out living together so I'm so excited to make up for lost time!

  • Every day.

     

    We work out together every day and will eat dinner together (99% of the time). We don't spend the night with each other every night, but we do most nights.

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  • It depends on the relationship. With Stalker Guy, he lived exactly halfway between my office and home, so I'd stop there 3-4 nights a week, and then usually stay over all weekend. (In hindsight, probably shouldn't have spent so much time with him!) 

     With New Guy, we're seeing each other for the 5th time tonight in the 10 days since we met. He has family coming in thursday-Sunday, so I won't see him again until probably Monday. He has his kids every other weekend, which just happens to be the following weekend after that, so I won't see him then either. I think we'll end up settling into a twice a week/Saturday thing, or twice a week/Sunday after the kids leave thing. I don't know. 

     

    I like to see someone at least 3 times a week for sure.  

  • We are somewhat long distance. He lives 90 mins away. So we spent Friday after work till Sunday night together. We usually take turns at his place or mine.
  • BF and I see each other every day. He works four 10 hour days a week (Thursdays and weekends off) and I work swing shift (an 8 hour shift between 10am and 10pm five days a week), so we spend about an hour together before going to sleep.
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  • BF and I work together, but he's at a different campus.  So, I might see him a few times at work during the week depending on meetings.  The kids are with me Sunday from noon until Thursday afternoon.  We might see him once during that time.  I spend Thursday night - Saturday night at his house.  I go work out on Sunday mornings, pick the girls up and then we usually go out to his house for lunch and go home in the early afternoon for laundry, catching up, etc.
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