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FI is going through depression
It started up probably 8-12 months ago. (we have been together for 3 yrs) He just feels "blue" a lot of the time. That is the word he uses to describe him feeling sad. He cannot always pinpoint where it is coming from, but I know work, the fact that he is slightly overweight, and just feeling down on himself are the major causes. I was so worried for him that I made him make a doctors appointment so he started talking to a therapist and today was his first day taking his new anti-depresent meds.
About ten years ago I was in the same boat as him, so I know EXACTLY what he is going through and how he feels. My question is...how do I deal with him going through this? I am always, always there for him, I give him a lot of love and affection and that does help out. Sometimes there isn't even anything I do though that makes him feel better. I know it isn't me or our relationship, he has told me many times.
I guess I am just looking for some support for those of you who have been there or are currently in my same situation. Thank you!
Re: FI is going through depression
Love and patience is all you can do. Maybe once he's been going to therapy for a while and has developed a good rapport with his therapist, you could go with him once or twice. I know that when I was going through this, it helped my husband to come with me a few times. The therapist told him many things that I thought I'd already explained but hearing it form an impartial third party made it easier for my husband to take it in. Our communication got a lot better after that.
Good luck!
it could be anything from hormonal dysfunction to a thyroid imbalance -- both are fixable and curable.:)
I am highly surprised that he hasn't seen a doc first --- he should see one anyway. Food for thought.
Thanks for the replies. He did see a medical doctor, they did blood work, a physical, ect. He did do that first, and then they reffered him to the therapist.
Me getting support as well is a very good idea. I will most definitely look into that.