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input please

So, I am probably over-thinking this (what? I never do that...)

So I got an interview at Wright State in OH for my psyd in about a month (yay! happy dance) this is the school I want to go to since DH could be stationed there, like yesterday.

We have a couple we were very friendly with at out last base who are currently stationed there. I am wondering about asking to stay with them instead of getting a hotel. My only reservation is that they have a baby (about 10 months), I will be getting in fairly late (plane lands at like 9) I will be renting a car. My interview is from 8-5, and I have to go to the airport directly after because I have an interview in DC the following day.

So, I'm hesitant because it would really just be like over night, and I dont want to disturb the baby by coming in so late... ? And it seems really like I'm using them for a place to stay - which I suppose I am.

FTR we have a good relationship with the couple, as in, their septic system went out and we let them use our showers and washer/dryer, stuff like that. So, we have done bigger favors for them. Also, DH said he thinks they would be upset if I didnt see them while in town.

What say you MN? Would it be too much of an inconvenience to ask or should I ask and give them the opportunity to say no? (especially interested in those who have had babies, since I think that is my main concern, but other non-baby opinions welcomed, too)

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  • I don't see the issue.  I'd let you stay at my house.  I highly doubt you'll be running a parade through their house. 
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  • I don't see the issue either. I'd be fine with you staying in my house under those circumstances. If you feel weird about it, maybe call and tell them you're coming to town and you'd like to see them while you're there, then ask for recommendations on where to stay near them and see if they offer?
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    I don't see the issue either. I'd be fine with you staying in my house under those circumstances. If you feel weird about it, maybe call and tell them you're coming to town and you'd like to see them while you're there, then ask for recommendations on where to stay near them and see if they offer?

    This is a brilliant idea. This way if they don't offer you didn't have to directly ask and feel like you offended anyone. 

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  • I'd ask.  I don't care if my friends "use me for a place to stay." That's what friends are for, sometimes.  Bring them a bottle of wine or offer to grab breakfast or something as a token of appreciation, but really, I don't think it's a big deal.  I'm sure they want to see you!
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  • imagemeltoine:
    I don't see the issue either. I'd be fine with you staying in my house under those circumstances. If you feel weird about it, maybe call and tell them you're coming to town and you'd like to see them while you're there, then ask for recommendations on where to stay near them and see if they offer?

    This is what I would do. 

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  • I have two and I have let friends stay overnight for various reasons, especially if they are passing through. That age isn't too hard if your routine gets screwed up for one night.
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  • Definitely ask them. I wouldn't mind a houseguest coming in at that hour unless you made a ton of noise and woke one of my kids up. I would be upset if a friend came to town and didn't visit. 
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  • imageMrsOjoButtons:
    I'd ask.  I don't care if my friends "use me for a place to stay." That's what friends are for, sometimes.  Bring them a bottle of wine or offer to grab breakfast or something as a token of appreciation, but really, I don't think it's a big deal.  I'm sure they want to see you!

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  • Not an issue at all. In fact, Caroline is in bed by 8 or 830 every night so your timing wouldn't be a problem at all. She would never hear you arrive and just see you in the morning. I would ask, I bet they'll love to have you! More importantly, good luck on your interview!
  • Thanks guys!! This is what I was thinking but for some reason over thought it. I'll talk to them today 
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  • I think the real question is, what kind of freak wouldn't want you to stay with them?!
    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
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    I think the real question is, what kind of freak wouldn't want you to stay with them?!
    lol! I guess I let you stay with me and I'd only met you once for lunch!!

    You guys were right, I'm a nut. She wrote back and was like "sounds awesome! We have a room just for you" thanks for telling me I'm crazy  

     

    Little do they know I'm bringing my banjo and my drums lol. 

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