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Should I be worried? It's about FB.
So, this is probably going to be pretty long... Sorry in advance.
This week my BFF is visiting from LA for a week. I am currently unemployed which has given us ample amount of time for late night chats, Super Mario Bros, and drinking. My DH (thankfully) is still employed and has to get up early in the morning. He stayed up pretty late with us (12am and has to get up at 5am) tonight to watch a movie and then shortly after went to bed. While BFF and I were playing Wii (around 1am) I get a text on my phone from fb that says "Please use code ****** to approve login from an unrecognized machine". I pretty much have my fb on lockdown from everybody except DH and BFF. Needless to say, my fb password is the same as our wireless so I was unsure if it had something to do with that. So I go into the bedroom to see if something is screwing up with our router and DH is awake. I ask him about the text and he told me that he "accidentally" was trying to save something from fb and tried to login from the mobile fb on his phone and he didn't realize that my email/password was in the login spot. Thus me receiving the unrecognized device text.
Not that I have to say this, but I have nothing to hide. Both DH and BFF know my passwords for everything. Email, G+, FB, everything. I have no problem with either of them going on my accounts for any reason.
Another thing is, I used to get these texts all the time and didn't really ever think anything of it.Until now. I recently cleared all my devices on the fb settings. Am I being unreasonable in wondering or questioning why he's trying to "hide" the fact that he's accessing my account? I tried logging out and then logging in on my own phone on the mobile fb site and it doesn't save my password on my own phone, why would it on his? He knows my password, but why is he trying to check my fb at 1am when he is supposed to be sleeping?
I confronted him and he is sticking to his "accident story", but I have a hard time believing it after checking it with my own phone.
Am I over-reacting or is this something I should be worried about?
Re: Should I be worried? It's about FB.
Did he say what he was trying to save?
Is your BFF male or female?
Hm.
Maybe he's feeling a little insecure and wanted to look - (it happens to the best of us, he's human...) you say you're unemployed and that leaves you plenty of time to pal around with your best friend, maybe he's a bit uncomfortable with that. Personally, if my husband had to get up for work at 5am, there's no way I'd be having company over that late, just simply out of respect for him and all that, but that's just me. Now that you have all that free time, what are you doing to pal it up with your husband? *Just curious...Im not sure why he'd want to access your FB - your best bet is to have an in depth convo about this, but what I'd love to know is:
Why would your best friend have or even need all of your passwords to all of your accounts? I find that a bit odd. Your husband, I could understand - but the bff? It seems a bit much. *With that being said, I have the same best friend for over 20 years and have never once felt the need to give her 1 of my passwords, let alone all. So, that seems odd to me...
I just need to know: how old are you?
Put me down as another person who doesn't understand why your BFF knows your passwords. That's weird. Really weird.
A few things that make me go "??" about this whole thing:
- Your BF is in town for a WEEK and that requires numerous late nights, while your DH needs to get up to go to work? What are you doing all day that you can't sit around and chat and play Wii?
- I too wonder why your BFF has your passwords. That's really odd
- Sometimes people have problems sleeping. Your DH being up at 1am isn't all that weird to me. Especially as you all are still up (I have problems sleeping when DH is home but doing something else), and perhaps he could hear you.
Past that - I'm honestly a bit confused. What is the ultimate issue? That he was trying to logon to your FB account from his phone? Does he have his own FB account?
And sure, I dont' really understand the "I accidentally saving something". But there is a lot about this that I don't understand.
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I agree, this struck me as odd while reading the OP.
I think my reaction to this is "so what"? So what if your DH was logging into your facebook, he has your password, right? You gave it to him so he could look, right?
So, what's the big deal?
For real. Maybe he thinks your way-too-close relationship with your BFF has veered into inappropriate territory and he was checking to see if you emailed each other love letters or something.
Theory #1 - OP's BFF is a guy, and her H is a little suspicious of all this time together while he is off at work. So he logs in to FB to check her messages to see if there have been any shady exchanges.
Theory #2 is still in the works...
Yeah. Why on earth would anyone besides your DH have a password of yours? Wierd
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Probably because you were playing wii at 1am when he is supposed to be sleeping. I'm sure you were keeping him awake.
Not going to touch the other stuff. I think everyone else has pretty much covered it.
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I like theory #1.
That was my first thought as well.
or 3) you are lesbo'ing it up with your BFF and your DH wants to find out what else you might be hiding.
I feel like we're never going to know. Should we just make up something?
This is totally BVal. I am sure of it.
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