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A Bit Irritated (longish)
Sorry I can't be concise, ever. So my cousin has known for a month that she had plane tickets to go home and I asked her for her flight information at least twice. (She lives with us for those of you won don't know). Last week I specifically asked her to write her flight info down on the family calendar and she said she would, but didn't. Friday night around 8pm or something, she suddenly asks if H or I could drive her to the airport the next morning for her 7 am flight. I actually couldn't as I was having an 8am massage in Redmond, so H got roped into doing it.
H and I talked off and on throughout the week guessing that she didn't arrange for someone to pick her up either and I foretold she would ask me the same frickin' day. We've been texting regularly, so it's not like I haven't been in contact with my cousin while she's gone. We even texted yesterday and I asked her when she was coming home and she answered, "Tomorrow at 7!" I thought maybe that would *hint hint* if she needed a ride. She didn't ask so I assumed maybe she for once DID pre-arrange with a friend. Nope, today I get a text asking if I can pick her up. I answered yes. I then told her that I was feeling frustrated because of the last minute. I said we'd talk about it tonight (too difficult to do over text and she always reads my tone wrong if its something that she could possibly take offense to). Then Iasked what airline she was flying and if 7:30 sounded good as it would give time for her to deplane and get baggage.
She got upset because she said she always appreciates it and offers to get me a coffee or pay for gas (which is true). I told her I agreed about that, and I'd explain better later. She didn't give me the confirmation info about pick up and then half an hour later texts me that her friend will pick her up.
I feel like she's throwing a little drama fit. I SAID I would pick her up! The irritating thing is it's not like it was a last minute trip, but while she can make ALL sorts of set plans with the people she'll see when she gets home, this is not the first time she's left asking us for a ride until the last minute. I don't think it's unreasonable of me to expect her to make these arrangements earlier. And trying to have the convo tonight, she's going to be all hyper-sensitive and overreact which makes it hard to even talk about why I'm irritated! And for what it's worth, she'll be 25 in a month.
Re: A Bit Irritated (longish)
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Ugh this sounds so frustrating. I'd be super frustrated too.
It's a really harsh lesson, but if she does this to you again, I'd say no. Hopefully she's smart enough, that if she misses a flight or two or has to pay $75 to take a cab home, then she's learn quick.
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This. Also, at age 24/25, my mom would have told me to get my @ss in a cab and figure out how I was going to pay for it if I did that. I wouldn't take her or pick her up again until you establish some ground rules with her (i.e. we're not going to be "on call" 24 hours before your departure / arrival time).
Yeah, I would never expect anyone to drop everything and pick me up. IMO she needs to learn how the world works!
This post made me feel anxious and irritated! Lol! I don't do well when people can't give me a straight answer. Like a schedule. How hard is it! I am so sorry you are having to deal with her immatureness. I agree with the others, teach her a lesson soon, this is how my BIL when he visits acts. He acts like H and I are his chauffers and waits the last second to get a ride. We had to start turning him down and he kinda learned. Stay strong! Hope she gets a place of her own soon! You and your H don't need this.
I realize she's being a baby now and acting like you're the bad guy, so as the mature person you'll probably have to initiate the discussion. I think it's fair to apologize for acting angry etc., but then explain how her poor choices are inconsiderate.
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She sounds incredibly immature and entitled. I don't know how she can 'read' tone wrong in a text cause if she read irritation, I dunno, I'd be seriously irritated too. Basically, she's paying you to do her this favor (with coffee or gas), but is dismissing your time as unimportant. That you will jump when she asks you to jump.
If she's going to be hypersensitive, the next time she asks, I'd just say: No. I asked you X many times before for your itinerary so we could plan around it, but I already have plans. Here's the # of a cab company.