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Vent: Why do people have to be hurtful?

I finally got around to posting some pictures on fb of our apartment, things we've been doing, etc since we moved here from NC. I'm sad because a few people I thought were good friends posted things like, "Geez, do you have to flaunt it?" "Not everyone can get a job with (DH's company)." "Way to make the rest of us feel bad." "You just married him for his money. When are you going to get a job?" 

I'm pretty sure nothing I posted was boastful. Both DH and I didn't have a lot growing up and we both worked really hard to get where we are now. We live modestly and don't pay full-price for pretty much anything but groceries; that's just how we are. DH and I have been together since we were 16, so how exactly it is that I married him for money is beyond me. And as for me not having a job, DH and I agreed I would take some time off to focus on my health, lose weight and deal with some things I've been putting off. I don't see how that part is any of anyone else's business. I also don't want to take just anything to have a job. I want work that is meaningful and challenges me. 

These are people I know are going through a rough time, so I try to take it with a grain of salt, but I've been nothing but supportive of them and hardly ever talk about the good things in my life. I just don't get why people have to hurt other people to make themselves feel better.

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Re: Vent: Why do people have to be hurtful?

  • I might be in a really smad mood right now cause of work, but it sounds like to me? It's time to cull your friends list.

    There's people pinging you and going: Hey, I felt a little hurt by what you posted cause I'm going through a hard time (and even then, why bother?) and people just commenting about how you're boasting.

    It is your damn facebook. They can look elsewhere.

    That doesn't sound like friends to me, no matter how difficult of a time they are going through right now.

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  • That really sucks :::hugs::::  People can be really hurtful when they are jealous, insecure, and immature. 
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  • That is bummer that people would post those types of things. I would just delete the comments and then move on as if they werent posted.
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  • imagedreamwinds:

    I might be in a really smad mood right now cause of work, but it sounds like to me? It's time to cull your friends list.

    There's people pinging you and going: Hey, I felt a little hurt by what you posted cause I'm going through a hard time (and even then, why bother?) and people just commenting about how you're boasting.

    It is your damn facebook. They can look elsewhere.

    That doesn't sound like friends to me, no matter how difficult of a time they are going through right now.

    A. I have to agree! It's YOUR damn page, and you can share!! I like looking at my friends' pictures, even when they have more than me. Time to cull. I'm sorry they felt like it's ok to take their sh!t out on you. :(

    B. "smad" ? I'm guessing a typo, but I have decided it must mean some cooler version than just "mad."

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    imagedreamwinds:

    I might be in a really smad mood right now cause of work, but it sounds like to me? It's time to cull your friends list.

    There's people pinging you and going: Hey, I felt a little hurt by what you posted cause I'm going through a hard time (and even then, why bother?) and people just commenting about how you're boasting.

    It is your damn facebook. They can look elsewhere.

    That doesn't sound like friends to me, no matter how difficult of a time they are going through right now.

    A. I have to agree! It's YOUR damn page, and you can share!! I like looking at my friends' pictures, even when they have more than me. Time to cull. I'm sorry they felt like it's ok to take their sh!t out on you. :(

    B. "smad" ? I'm guessing a typo, but I have decided it must mean some cooler version than just "mad."

    Oh.... it's a Gilmoreism my sister and I use a lot. sad + mad = smad. XD

    Hungry + angry = Hangry.

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  • imagedreamwinds:
    imageKST_:
    imagedreamwinds:

    I might be in a really smad mood right now cause of work, but it sounds like to me? It's time to cull your friends list.

    There's people pinging you and going: Hey, I felt a little hurt by what you posted cause I'm going through a hard time (and even then, why bother?) and people just commenting about how you're boasting.

    It is your damn facebook. They can look elsewhere.

    That doesn't sound like friends to me, no matter how difficult of a time they are going through right now.

    A. I have to agree! It's YOUR damn page, and you can share!! I like looking at my friends' pictures, even when they have more than me. Time to cull. I'm sorry they felt like it's ok to take their sh!t out on you. :(

    B. "smad" ? I'm guessing a typo, but I have decided it must mean some cooler version than just "mad."

    Oh.... it's a Gilmoreism my sister and I use a lot. sad + mad = smad. XD

    Hungry + angry = Hangry.

    Love this! I am currently watching GG right now. "Oh that makes me so mad. And sad. I'm smad!"

    OP, I'm sorry, that sucks! :hugs: 

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  • You're kidding!! That's just crazy. Jealousy makes people do ridiculous things, but it's not fair for it to be taken out on you.

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  • Thank you ladies. We're actually just starting out and don't even have that much. Our apartment looks pretty bare, haha. It does seem about time for my quarterly friend culling, though.

    And dreamwinds, I love smad and hangry. Smile 

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  • Sounds like you need better friends. Don't let them get you down. You should be proud of what you accomplished. People with that kind of attitude don't go any where in life.
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  • Never watched GG, but I like the SMAD! And Hangry is me ALL the time! Oooo, I've been so SMAD this whole WEEK!!
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  • That is really rude of them. Why would they say things like that??? Just because you posted where you live? Are they friends here??

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  • imagesarack:

    That is really rude of them. Why would they say things like that??? Just because you posted where you live? Are they friends here??

    No, they're definitely not friends from here. Everyone I've met here is really nice! Not that people where I'm from aren't nice, lol. There were a few who posted who really have no excuse other than being azzhats. I don't need them in my life if they can't be happy for the few things we've worked hard for.  

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    imagesarack:

    That is really rude of them. Why would they say things like that??? Just because you posted where you live? Are they friends here??

    No, they're definitely not friends from here. Everyone I've met here is really nice! Not that people where I'm from aren't nice, lol. There were a few who posted who really have no excuse other than being azzhats. I don't need them in my life if they can't be happy for the few things we've worked hard for.  

    well the best part about this is that they're there and you're here. so you don't have to really deal with them. it always does feel really horrible to find out truth about friends..
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  • I'm seriously smad for you. People suck. Luckily, some people don't suck. We think you're rad. Smile

    I also agree with the unfriending. No need for such negativity in your life.  

  • That's just awful. I'm so sorry that these people are jealous of you and want to make you feel bad to bring you down with them. I say let it roll off your back, though I know that's easier said than done. I really think you deserve to be happy and if you want to show that off, show it off!

    I'm sorry your friends are being asshats. 

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  • i'm way late on this--but i'm sorry. it definitely sounds like these are not good friends! friends should not make someone else feel bad, even if you're going through a hard time. i'd delete the comments and move on.
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