Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Have we disussed this? The Nest...
Other than this board (hell, even this board, sometimes!) The Nest is a really tough place to hang out when you're childless and single and feeling lonely for whatever reason. Anyone else have this issue?
My home board is one of the best boards around (seriously, I love these women!), but it's still hard not to feel really isolated some times.
Re: Have we disussed this? The Nest...
Oh, I've shared it (drunk, probably - which is regrettable) - I just hate feeling so left behind all the time. P - you and I should really meet up more, just to chat or whatever.
We totally should! But, you know my lame ass schedule. I'm always game for a HH on a Monday if that ever works for you.
You know all the cat videos, etc. I post? It's because I can't post what I'm really feeling/thinking so I self medicate with cute cats (and box wine.)
I'm also feel the same sometimes! Its actually why I'm hardly ever on my home board anymore and I absolutely LOVE those ladies and have met a lot of them IRL. Not to mention my home board has all migrated to the bump and the nest side is dead. So, while I like hearing how everyone is doing, I don't feel very comfortable posting.
I think there are actually many of us who aren't in relationships, maybe we're just not talking about it as much? I try to look at it as it gives me hope that happiness (with a man) will find me too
I am on this board only when it comes to TN, but I am also on TB and though I do find it wonderful most of the time... there are a lot of conversations I just can't participate in and things people don't understand about my life.
I have a child and I was in a relationship for about 8 months, but I am single now (again) and still SO even though it has been almost 2 years since my split.
I think starting over can take a very long time because it comes in phases. I mean I am just now finicially stable on my own and able to live in my own home!
While, I can't relate on the kid front, I can relate feeling out of place. I'm on the bump too and I can't relate to any of the posts regarding....."My DH...." It's hard. It's hard in real life too at times. I think it's one of those things where you constantly want what you don't currently have.
I don't have a SO at the moment. I'm dating, but I'm also envious of the ladies on here who have a SO.
It's hard, but we just have to be patient. All of our times will come. That's what I tell myself, at least.
I concur doctor! It's very tough IRL and on here. I have zero single girlfriends and while they're always willing to include me and their SO's are my friends also, it's not the same and I always know I'm going home alone.
I went out last night and my friend's friend (who is male) asked why the heck am I single? I'm pretty and athletic and smart and am very approachable and easy to talk to, but I don't get hit on or asked out. It's frustrating. My male friends and colleagues think I'm attractive and funny, so I just don't get it. I bathe daily
(sometimes twice) and I really take care of myself and dress well.
I have an eHarmony and have had no success so far and I just started a POF account and have had a lot of action as far as emails and being favorited, so we'll see.
Sometimes I think about trying to find another internet community that isn't wedding/marriage based, but I guess I'm lazy even on the internet.
Most of the people on my old month board are having or have babies right now, and all I can think is "I'm so glad I'm not them."
While I love my DS to pieces, I'd give anything to have a father figure for him. Some of the other boards get to me when they post about all the sweet things their husband do for them or how doting their husbands are during their pregnancy. I'm a lot better now than I was post split with XH. I know that in time I'll have that again which gives me the strength I need to carry on.
I have a kid and no longer feel comfortable posting on the bump after my separation. I don't have family or relatives issues to vent out since I am alone in the state I live with and often feel alone. No one really knows what to say to me because it is obvious life has changed so much for me that no one really knows how to approach.
I don't really mind it on most of The Nest, because it is you, know for married people. I do find I often times find I identify with this board less and less though. While I realize we area all in various stages of relationships, it does feel like the majority of the posters are in relationships. However, being here a while I see that kind of ebbs and flows.
My biggest issue is IRL. I'm the only person I know not dating/married so I find myself feeling really left out and awkward in conversations. Plus even when I go out with my girlfriends, I know they are just counting down until they can go home to their SO. Which sucks, because I'm really not a fan of ending my weekend nights out at 10pm.
Let's hang out here! I am not dating and I am childless!
What depresses me on TN is when people talk about physical connection with their SO/H. I want that so bad. I can't wait to get laid. I think I'll drink some champagne to celebrate lol.
AMEN!
(was out of town, and not on much - but I agree, that's the worst!)
Oh man, yes. I just want to make out with someone. The past two nights, I've woken up in the middle of the night super horney.