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Trying to get engaged

I have been in this relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and I'm starting to worry that I am hoping for something that will never happen. See, my first problem is I can't get him to admit he loves me and because of  that I'm starting to feel like he doesn't see me as the girl he wants to marry. I need help. What are somethings that you were able to do to help jump start that process?

Re: Trying to get engaged

  • If he won't even say he loves you, what makes you think he'll ask you both to commit yourselves for the rest of your lives? There is no way to really "jump start" this sort of thing. You just need to talk to him and tell him where you're at and what you expect out of the relationship and then ask him where he is.

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  • Pinch the tip. That's gotta jumpstart something. 

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  • Here the thing, he will admit he loves me when he is drunk or really tired.
  • You can always try hobbling his legs so he can't run away so he finishes his next novel. I mean, is forced to love you.
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  • Seriously though, why the fucck would you want to stay in a relationship with someone that you have to badger the fucck out of to get him to admit he loves you? I mean, come on. Where's your self respect? 

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  • imageDucky + Little Foot:
    Here the thing, he will admit he loves me when he is drunk or really tired.

    Then the solution is simple. Turn him into a raging alcoholic.

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  • Ultimatum!
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  • Just get him to propose when he's drunk.  Heck, he doesn't even really need to, just tell him he did.  And make sure to let him know there's no take backs. 
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  • Why would you even WANT to be engaged to someone who doesn't feel inclined to say he loves you unless he's trashed? Find someone who WANTS to be with you. Please don't try to marry someone who obviously does not want the same out of this relationship. One year is not very long to not have a proposal, but if he hasn't told you that he loves you (sober), yet, you should probably minimize your wasted time and move on.

  • DTMFA.

    Somewhere out there is a guy who will think you are the bees knees and will be more than willing to tell you how much he loves you.  And will *want* to spend the rest of his life with you.

    This guy doesn't.  You are worth more than the dribbles of his affection. 

  • He doesn't love you.  You don't get someone to "admit" they love you.  You don't "jump start" commitment.  Marriage is enough work when both people are ready and want to commit.  You're setting yourself up for disaster.
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  • This guy is just kiling time with you until someone that he *would* like to mary comes along.  Don't waste another minute of your time on him; go out and find a guy who's crazy about you.
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  • Hell, I even love you when I'm drunk and I don't know you.  

  • You want an engagement w/out ever having had an I love you? What??

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  • There are more than four men in the world. 
  • You don't have to get married just because it's been almost a year. There is no deadline on things like that.

    But, like everyone else has said, do you really want to marry a man that will only "admit" to loving you when he's drunk or tired? It doesn't matter how long you've been with him.

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  • Make him some engagement chicken.  Then he'll be forced to love you.  Or your chicken, but does it really matter?

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  • Thanks everyone. This is what I needed. You guys are right maybe it is time for me to move on. 
  • Just curious but how old are you guys?
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  • imagekatie.i.do:You can always try hobbling his legs so he can't run away so he finishes his next novel. I mean, is forced to love you.

     

    This. Love this damn movie. 

    In regards to your question on how to "jump start".....why would you even post this question? Do you REALLY want to marry someone who won't even tell you he loves you unless he's drunk? Sounds like he's a real catch. 

    Plus, it's been A YEAR.......not sure why your jumping to engagement. 

    If you really want to know if he has any plans of marrying you in the future, maybe you should just ask, not "jump start" the process. What's next popping holes in the condoms? 

    Oh, or just do what Katie said.....THAT will give you the guarantee he will never leave. 

     

     

    I wouldn't change a thing...it's all led me to you.
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