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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Friday FF confessions....GO!
I will start....
The guy I have been seeing has recently pulled back the past two days (similar to Emmi's post). We have a date tonight. I think he is going to cancel. I am "hoping" it is all in my head, but I feel like I will not be that lucky....ugh... 
Re: Friday FF confessions....GO!
I have two:
I signed up for OKC but didn't really add anything to it. I just was curious if that site was any different than the others with guys in my area. They're all the same so now I know.
A guy that was once stationed with my XH is on my FB. I have kept up with him for the last yr. I posted something something along the lines of how my choice in men sucks and the common factor is that their all northerners/midwestern. He posted that not all "northerners" are like that just from about CT and higher. This spun in to a full blown conversation and that he missed the area I live in and it ended up with me giving him an invitation to visit any time. He is currently stationed in Germany.
I am not a fan of self-medicating, but my coworker started taking Adderall and has been losing weight and seems to have endless energy and I find myself thinking "I gotta get me some of that". (I won't really)
Also, I secretly hate my boyfriend's cousin. I call him Cousin C*ckblock in my head and to my close friends. So I guess it's not totally a secret.
I have a position lined up to work for my father in the upcoming months. I feel like people will see me as some moocher who lived at home and then worked for her daddy. I haven't been able find a legal job and this would enable me to have a great salary and get some legal, albeit not law firm, experience. I don't want to be seen as that girl whose parents handed her things, but I haven't been able to make any strides otherwise and I'd be an idiot to pass up a great opportunity.
It is time for me to define serious boundaries I have with stbxh. He does not have the capacity to have empathy or compassion for other's because he does not have them to begin with. He is a nice guy and specializes in fixing things for people but he still hurts people?s feelings. When dropping off my son last night, he had to say that my emotional needs/side of me is a really huge turn off and yet he still suprises me with doing my laundry and fixing things up around the house while I am away on vacation in Hawaii. I am not a robot! He is a very confused man!
I think it is time to limit my conversation and time with him.
I have major issues with fatigue and extremely low energy, despite taking high doses of Vitamin D, Vitamin B12, Welbutrin, and now a cortisol supplement. My thyroid checks out fine, so it's a mystery to my doctors. One doctor tried me on Ritalin last year, and it made me sleepy. I'm dying to try Adderral to see if it's any different, but no doctor in the world is going to prescribe it to me.
There's always internet meds from Canada haha (kidding). My coworker takes a large dosage of anti-seizure meds that really sedate her, and she still had to beg to get the Adderal from her neurologist. You sound like a friend of mine, she was finally diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue syndrome when they really couldn't find anything else wrong with her.
Magnesium supplement?
I have a date tomorrow. It's the first time I've been asked out in over a year! I don't quite know how to feel about it. He's new to the city, too and charming and sweet via message and we have great witty banter and I feel as if I've already placed him in the dreaded "friend zone" because that's how I roll. I'm afraid he won't be as cute in person.
I've had a little bit of emailing back and forth with the ex. It started with me telling him I did not want him to attend the conference here in less than two weeks. He said he wouldn't come and would cancel the meetings he was supposed to have. We have spent this conference together in adjoining rooms twice a year for the past 2 years and I'm sad, but also relieved that I won't be tempted by him.
Had a second date with another military guy last night, and I should have just cancelled given how I'm feeling about K, but I felt bad canceling last minute, so I went.
Serves me right, because it was TERRIBLE.
Went to a museum first, where he rushed through EVERYTHING and kept making disparaging comments about artists, and talking about how much he disliked portraits (um, dude - then don't suggest we go to the National Portrait Gallery!).
Went to dinner afterward at an actually very yummy spanish tapas place, but the conversation during dinner had my blood pressure skyrocketing. It's hard enough for uber liberal, feminist peacenik me to be dating someone in the military at all (it's a prejudice I have, I know it's bad, and I'm working on it), but hearing him continually make comments about african americans serving, or women serving, or "the gays" serving, "not that I have a problem with them" REALLY started wearing on me by the end of dinner.
Should have just listened to my gut and backed out.
Oh, and I think I've discovered that a big part of why I'm resisting K is our age difference. I've dated younger men in the past, but typically stopped at two years. He's 6 years younger than me and for some reason that's hitting me really hard. Boo for ageism.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Yay for you!
My FFFC is there's a younger guy that goes to my gym that I think is completely hot and very sweet. I'm 29 and he is 23 so it's a significant age different. PLUS, I used to babysit him, how weird is that???!!! Nothing has happened at all other than we chat when we see eachother at the gym, but I cannot help but think that he is a total hottie and I'd do him on the gym floor. Just had to lay that out there.
OMG I would do him on the gym floor! How awesome would it be for you to get some action and also for him to say he hooked up with his former babysitter?! I say go for it if you want some booty--this doesn't sound like a good BF prospect based on age though.
I'm dating a new guy who I really like a lot. We talk all the time and started out emailing long, thought out emails. We've only been on TWO dates though so it's crazy how much I like him already.
He invited me to join him for a weekend in Florida and I said yes. The trip is next month.
It's a little hard to get the image of him as a bratty little boy fighting with his little brother out of my mind, but I would be willing to give it my best shot!
2012 Reading Challenge
I used to really like you, Bowies.
You just broke my heart.
Chiming in late since I was really busy yesterday at work. I actually have a few this week!
I hooked back up with my FWB last night - we had lots of fun right after XH and I split last year. It had been almost 5 months since I got any sexy time, so I enjoyed every moment of it! Oh, and I work with this guy, and my desk just got moved directly across from him so there's been lots of flirting going on! And although this sounds like it could blow up in my face (working together and all) we're very open about what we are and have set the ground rules.
I also just signed up on OKC. I created a profile just out of curiosity sake since I've never done the whole online dating thing. Now, I'm considering filling out my profile and giving it a shot.
And I'm also with Bowies on the Ryan Gosling thing. I do not find him attractive at all. Although, the "Dirty Dancing" move in Crazy Stupid Love was pretty hot lol.
And achase, there's a guy I see all the time that I ran into at the gym so I introduced myself. He is super hot and seems really sweet. I'm also 29, and I found out later that he is around 23 or 24. I can't justify that move because he's really just a baby. :-/