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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Friday Confessions: GO
My husband wants to take me to the movies. So I went online and got tickets for "The Vow".
Total chick flick I know! but hey V-day is around the corner and a little love movie can't hurt anyone right!!!???
(my friends are coming and my friends H is so bummed he has to watch it! ha ha!)
Re: Friday Confessions: GO
I LOVE This!
Mangia! My Family Table
My mom is watching the kids tomorrow night. She obviously didn't want to, I could tell by her tone when I asked her, but she did say she would do it. I could have let her off the hook and tried to find another solution but maybe she'll learn to say what she means instead of hinting at it with vague behavior.
I feel ok with this because (a) I haven't been out since Cora was born and this is a chance to get dressed up for the FD dinner/dance and (b) she watches Teagan only once or twice a year and I don't think I ask an unreasonable amount.
Mom to Teagan 4.11.07 and Cora 9.30.11
D&E @ 22w 9.30.09 CMV infection BFP 10.15.10 C/P 4w4d
I am so disinterested in my work lately. I can't focus on it at all.
So instead I spent time this week reading the blog of a (male, gay, was initially single) friend of MH and sister that is attempting to have a baby via a surrogate and egg donor. Makes me feel so lucky to have had a pretty easy time having my kids and also so selfish for thinking I could never donate eggs or be a surrogate.
Alexis is my favorite child.
There, I said it. I am sure I'll join the "I have no favorites" bandwagon once Lucas is older and we bond more and interact... but for now, Alexis is my girl.
This cracks me up. I picture two people cut outs busting through the door.
Amen, sister!! I totally understand where you are coming from! ((hugs)) to all the working mamas in the same boat who don't 'clique' because we can't do daytime playdates or other fun daytime things with our kids. SAHM and working moms both have pros and cons... this is definitely one of the stinky things baout working!
It's not just working moms. I was home for three years and was still the odd man out in town. I'm just a different breed that is not for all people. lol. Don't feel too bad. I'm sure there are others in your boat- you've probably just encountered the queen bees because they make themselves everywhere
i'm a sahm, and this has nothing to do with it. moms are cliquey, they don't care about whether or not you work. My daughter is in dance class and i was so excited to meet new moms in the area, and so far it's not working out as planned. all the moms there know each other or just became instant BFFs and i sit there by myself. i try to include myself in their conversation, and they'll acknowledge what i say, but then turn the conversation back to between themselves. plus it's weird- a few of us have younger kids who are just there for the wait, and none of them share their toys with my son, and if he goes near them or tries to play- they flip, and the moms allow it. i'm of the school of "too bad, you need to share, get over it." so i feel like they all think i'm the mother of a bully or something that goes around taking toys. i don't see a problem with it- since they weren't playing with it and it was just sitting there, and he tries to share his toys with them. but i feel judged and outcast. i spent one class talking to another mom and was hopeful for her- but she seems to now be in the clique. another mom i enjoyed talking to isn't there very often. it stinks. i dread going to dance class.
my oldest was absolutely my favorite for at least the first year. i loved my son to pieces from day 1, but if i had to make a choice- i'd have picked my daughter without a 2nd thought. now that my son is 2, i've really bonded A LOT with him, i fall in love with him more and more every single time i look at him. it definitely took me longer to bond with him than it did with my daughter, but when i did, it was like night and day. now there's no way i could pick a favorite, it varies by who's not throwing a fit or who was the most helpful during clean up time. lol
I'm afraid to ever have another kid cause I just don't think I could love anyone as much as I love Wyatt. No, really. I ADORE him. And not in that, "he's perfect and doesn't do anything wrong" kinda way. In the, "I can't believe I get to watch Scooby Doo with the most amazing little boy in the world that I MADE," kinda way. He told me I was his best friend this morning. I nearly called in sick to spend the day with him. (by tonight I'll be willing to sell him to the gypsy's)
I want my salad from Houston's for Vday. That's all I want. I don't even need a freaking card. I just want to go and have a nice cold glass of wine (or 2), some spinach dip, & my Club salad. That's all. And yet....J is all, "we always go there." Yes. I know. Because I love it there. Why F with a good thing.
This is what I"m hoping. Hopefully once school starts in September I'll find the other ones like me that have just been doing their own thing.
I finally found 2 I can totally gel with. NOW. Over half the year later.
I agree with Tara. I've been in my Mom's club for 5 years now and only in the last year have I REALLY made friends with other moms. It's so hard to find people you click with. I've been "odd man out" for a while too........
When the kids get in school, I feel like it gets harder to make mom friends since you see so little of each other and there are lots of working moms.
okay so those who would like to meet other moms....should we do a GTG?
my husband took M to the park the other day and met a couple and M and their daughter played really well. She asked if she could call me to have a play date....well H ended up giving her my number but I haven't gotten a call from her!! I was actually kind of looking forward to meeting a new mom!
The nest ate the rest of my response. There are a lot more working moms at the "school age" level and you don't make as many playdates because they're in school all day.
I actually don't know all the moms in B's class. Very few of them........
I am amazed at the things people get worked up about. I must be getting old or lazy cause I simply cant be bothered.
Since my kids have been in school and activities with school (not Gymboree etc) but soccer, gymnastics, school clubs etc I have found I have a ton of mom friends. Some work, some dont but we have tons of friends now. I am also involved in the classrooms, the PTAs and my husband coaches soccer etc but I cant go anywhere in town without running into someone I know. Its kind of nice, but we are in a small town too. Hang in there, it gets alot easier!
This happened to mh. He was out with Abby and met another dad with his kid who was Abby's age. The mom was SAHM so he was like oo here is my wife's number you should give her a call and the kids can play again. This family lives like 5 minutes from us. Yup nobody called.
Totally agree. Its so friggin hard because all the playgroups i have found in my area are all SAHM and they are never free on the weekends. im lucky that i have found a handful of other working moms w/ kids the same age, but its few and far between it feels like.