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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
What Do You Regret?
It's been an interesting week around these parts. I'm sure Pot Stirrer regrets a few things today and KC admitted to regretting her Myspace faux pas...what do you regret saying for all the internet to hear/read?
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Re: What Do You Regret?
Military related? How much of a AWing beebee I was when H first joined.
Everything else? How financially irresponsible we were before we got married and right after. Also that we ever agreed to roommates.
I regret the sappy back and forth FB wall-writings between H and I when we were dating. I recently read it all on his timeline, and I wanted to shrivel up and die. Private messages, sure, fine, whatever. But why did we do that for all to see? Yuck.
I don't really have anything military-related that I can think of.
Internet specific?
I regret C&Ping a post from my wedding month board over here. The OP was being a total bee bee and all "My FI is gone for 1 whole night for his bach party, I'm soooooooo lonely and I don't know what to do with myself". I thought it was funny how melodramatic she was being so I C&Ped because I knew y'all would think it was funny too.
Unfortunately, the rest of the board found out and they all turned on me. We were actually a pretty tight-knit group and I got blacklisted. In hindsight, I wish I'd just laughed to myself and kept my mouth/keyboard quiet.
I think I remember this but I didn't know you got blacklisted. Sad times. You'll always have us though.
lol Excellent idea.
I can't really think of anything online that I've put up that I really regret. I usually think things through before posting on FB because my mom, nana, and lots of my family are on there. I guess sometimes I regret posting about my MIL or really anyone on here since we have so many friends getting married soon and I am afraid they will find the boards and see what I say about them.
Something in general I regret saying is when I told one of my good friends that I "just knew that I was going to marry my boyfriend" at the time. That boyfriend was not H, and I couldn't stand him about 6 months after I said that. She still never taunts me with it sometimes.
I like you guys better anyway. But I wanted to have cake AND eat it.
I asked about re-homing my cat because we were moving.... On the pets board. ::headdesk:: Yeah. That will forever be my black mark of regret. That was a sad idiot day for me.
For the record, we kept him and we can't imagine life without him.
I remember this.
I regret a post I made on TTGP on the bump about thinking I was pregnant because of phantom symptoms. I got ripped to shreds (Mandy was in on it) and I never responded. They thought my profile was made up because it mentioned I was selling RE at the time (I was 19). I waited a few weeks, deleted it & made this SN. I kept lurking there & someone had saved the link and reposted when I deleted it. I was mortified even though they had no clue I was lurking.
I regret how much of an idiot I acted at first on MB.
Also non internet related, I regret my bad spending habits that are kicking my ass now
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I don't know if I regret anything online. I'm pretty quiet and tend to type out my response and then delete before posting.
I can post something now that I regret not sharing with someone: "Stop f'Ing complaining to me about your weight. Get off your lazy arse and DO something. ANYTHING. Calling me skinny all the time with a mean tone or saying you never see me eat (I seriously wonder if your eyes are sewn shut because I have eaten in front you dozens of times) is really grating on me. I consider myself average size. I work out by running and strength training 5-6 days a week which you also know. This is why I'm "skinny" to you. I work at it every day and it doesn't "come easy" for me like you think. I have insecurities and cellulite (quelle horreur!) so constantly badgering me about being smaller than you makes me want to slap you across the face.
It feels nice to get that off my chest.
Flame away!
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I regret posting on the "Not Engaged Yet" board on TK in general. Specifically, when I mentioned to one girl who said she could "only afford" Davids Bridal that she might be able to afford a designer dress, if she wanted, by going to sample sales. I said it not as diplomatically as that (mentioned that, in my opinion, DB doesn't always have the best quality fabric & sewing), and a whole bunch of girls who had DB dresses called me a snob and went on for about 3 separate threads about what a horrible person I was. That kind of sucked.
I also got ripped to shreds for booking our venue before FI proposed - it was called "pre-planning" and I was "bat-*** crazy" for doing it. When in fact, it was a decision and a process made together and it was FI's idea to go ahead and book the venue. None of that mattered, and I was vilified forever. I don't regret doing it at all - our wedding planning has been outrageously easy and generally stress-free. I do regret telling them about it, but I regret talking to most of them in the first place.
Wow that's awful! But I totally agree with you that you can find non DB dresses at a great price
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Back in the day, when I was in undergrad, I was in a sorority. It was when Facebook was very first started and you still needed a .edu address and not that many schools were on it. I had my settings so my college network could see my profile. Also, I think this was before you could upload pictures on there outside your profile pic.
I had listed as my hobbies "buying underaged people alcohol" as my hobby. Pretty much as a ironic joke because I was slightly older than my friends and I wouldn't buy them liquor. But I took for granted that one of our advisors who didn't really know me was a grad student at our school. She printed out my profile and gave it to the older advisors. I got pulled into a meeting with all them telling me how disappointed they were in me, I'm a high up officer in the sorority, I represent the sorority, blah blah blah. They told me I had to take it down.
Me being defiant, told them I would take down all my affiliations with the sorority before I took down a joke between me and my friends. So I took down all my posts and anything relating back to sorority life at all. I locked down my profile to whatever extent they had back then.
I probably changed that hobby and reaffiliated myself with my sorority after awhile, but just because I wanted to take it down, not because people were making me. I'm pretty stubborn, lol
I changed my name
I was a "victoria's secret angel" at a frat party one year. *cringe*
Oh and before H joined the Army, I made a post under my old SN about wanting to temporarily move back in with my parents or in-laws since our lease was up and it was pointless to sign a new lease for the short time he'd be in basic training, plus it would save us some money for our future down payment on a home.
Apparently A LOT of holier-than-though knotties thought that I should learn to be an adult and learn how to save money the "hard and real" way haha. It wasn't that bad but I can't believe that thread actually blew up. It wasn't very inflammatory haha.
I don't know enough about TN to know how they react to things, but this doesn't surprise me at all about TK. Sometimes I think people are actively looking for things to take offense to and blow out of proportion.
I've said similar things, and received similar feedback. We're moving in with my parents this summer so FI can study for the bar without having to take out additional loans - I hate my job, and my paycheck wouldn't cover our combined living expenses anyway.
My chosen career (not what I'm doing full-time now, but it's in the plans by later this year) is very flexible, and if FI deployed at some point, I'd probably move back in with my parents to save money. If I have young kids (who aren't in school yet), I'll definitely move back in with my parents! I know lots of people judge me for that, but whatever. I'm glad to have parents who I'm very close with and that support system, and the extra money could be put towards a college fund for our as-of-now-hypothetical children.
To be honest, I really liked them as students, even though I pretty much hate everything they stand for. They were really good about making sure they were in the right level class which is a big deal for making my day easier. Even our gay instructors taught them without too much trouble. One guy attended a public class, and after he introduced himself and said who he worked for, he made sure to disclaim that he's not like that whatever that meant.
I think a lot of them really do believe in their bigoted mission and think it comes from a loving place. They're good people who are horribly misguided, and it manifests as hate.
OK, for my NG story, b/c I think it's funny and was a great example of my lack of military knowledge...
Same job (training), contracted out to give a class up at the ANG unit. The classroom setup was horrible. There was an a/c that was so loud it could only be run during breaks. Typically, I only took 1 morning break, for 15 minutes, but when I was at that location, I stopped for 5 minutes every hour. Of course, they only scheduled classes during summer.
Someone asked me (ma'am-ed me which was so weird to me at that time) if they could take off their shirts. I'm 24, looking at a bunch of in shape men sitting in front of me, trying to figure out if they really wanted to sit there shirtless. And also why in the world they would ask me, a civilian, for any damn permission. I gave a hesitant, um, ok? because honestly, I couldn't care less if they were half dressed. I'm not in the habit of worrying (or controlling) what other people do if it doesn't affect me.
Thankfully, seeing my confusion, they explained that shirt was just the outer layer. I found the whole thing hilarious, especially when I later told my future H (only a bf at the time) about it that night.
67/200