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Divorce
I'm thinking about filing for divorce. My husband knows I'm unhappy but I haven't told him I've been thinking about separating yet. Any advice for this conversation?
Re: Divorce
My husband is a jackass. There are many problems with our relationship. I posted a while back in great detail, http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/61282619.aspx
Yes, I gave him this option a few months ago. I even got him an interview, which he never even called to schedule! That was the last straw.
This decision is completely breaking my heart. I hate to admit that our short marriage has failed to myself and our family but I don't want to spend the rest of my life like this.
See a lawyer and protect your finances. Get your ducks in a row. Separating and divorce are two different things. Either you want out or you want to end the marriage.
Is it your place or his or both? If it is your place then I guess Honey, I packed your bags and you need to find another place to live.
Expect him to do everything to try and convince you he is a great guy and then expect him to get very mad. It is not easy to see the gravy train leave the station without you on board.
initiating a game of charades is the only way.
THE ONLY WAY.
We have an apartment together but our lease is up in 4months. I told him he would be expected to move out if he didn't get his *** together within a month. Then I would move out in 4 months and look for something smaller/cheaper for housing. The cars are paid off and in my name and I highly doubt he'd have any problem taking his name off our bank accounts, there is not much in there anyway, And we don't have any shared credit cards.
We don't have kids so no issues there but, we do have dogs. One is his that we adopted before we were married and the other dog has been with me since before we were married and is like my son. I'd probably end up with both the dogs though.
Well here is looking forward to a depressing 30 days!
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but it sounds like you've thought everything through.
What did you mean by it's going to be a depressing 30 days?
Sorry, I didn't realize I hadn't added this info. earlier.
Gotcha. So he has 30 days to get his act together?
When you guys had this convo, did you tell him specifically what that meant? Are you guys going to counseling?
It sounds like you're already done, but you just need the 30 days to be sure so you don't have regrets.
If he does, will you be able to move past the things that he did to make you lose respect for him?