I just read the post below about the DH commenting on the co-worker's racy FB picture, and thought I'd ask about this one that happened to someone I know because I'm curious to see what others would think.
Guy and girl are dating, it's Christmastime. They've been fighting and are contemplating breaking up. Guy posts a pic on FB of himself dressed as Santa at a holiday party with a caption that reads: "Any of you ladies have a Santa fetish?" Girl is pissed and hurt, guy says it was tongue in cheek and meant to be funny.
Who's right and who's wrong?
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Re: s/o: DH inappropriate FB comment
As the woman in this scenario, I would take it as a sign that the relationship is over. If we were talking about breaking up, and the guy posted that, I would take it as a signal that he was over it and looking for other women (basically no longer planning on being faithful to me). If we were broken up at that point, I would take it as him moving on.
Then again, I can't see myself ever being with a man who would post that status, so take my statment with a grain of salt.
Sounds like more proof that they arent meant for one another.
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What woman would want to date a guy who put up a picture/post like that?
Seriously, that screams LAME.
yeah this.
I don't know that there's a 'right' or 'wrong' in a situation like this. They clearly aren't on the same page, and how they communicate about it and set boundaries for the future are what matters most.
If she tells him it hurts her feelings, and he says he didn't mean it that way and will happily take it down if it bothers her, and then doesn't say something like that again, that's a productive way to deal with an issue and a healthy resolution.
I can't even begin to list the unhealthy ways of responding - her trying to exact revenge by doing something similar, him refusing to acknowledge any fault, etc.
They're already talking about breaking up. I'd say she's overreacting.
This. Pissed and hurt may be an overreaction, but what he did was just....eww. If this is typical behavior from him, is it any wonder a breakup was coming?
YOU PEOPLE JUST DON'T GET ME! *runs away sobbing*
He sounds like a douche, actually. And she should just break up with him.
I've never been attracted to men who flaunt themselves like tools.
Gross. I've got douchechills.
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I think it's a joke and she was overreacting.
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I'm in this camp. He's not wrong, but he certainly is skeevy.
I think she is taking something personally that was not meant to be personal. It's a joke.
However, if she asks him to take it down because it makes her uncomfortable, then he should respect her wishes.
Ultimately, they are not meant to be together and I foresee many fights of the same nature in their future.