s/o and poll - one date wonder

calle28 · February 2012

achase's post made me wonder... for those of you in relationships right now - did the sparks fly immediately or was it gradual?

lovelybb · February 2012

For me with D, it was gradual and looking back, I actually really like that. I've dated other men where the chemistry was very strong and it blinded me to the fact that ultimately we weren't all that compatible.

I thought D was attractive but I didn't want to jump his bones for the first couple of dates There was just something about him that intrigued me and it was very easy to talk with him... then the slow burn started and it's been going strong ever since!

FormerlyAK · February 2012

BF and I both knew on date #1 that there was something there. But it wasn't like, "I want to rip your clothes off" chemistry. It was more that we really liked talking with each other and found each other attactive and were excited to have met someone smart and attractive. And our second date was the same day as our first because we were so excited about each other (first date was lunch, second was dinner and a movie that night).

There were other guys I dated where the sparks were more physical ... they didn't last past a few dates.

achase123 · February 2012

The few relationships I have been in, I definitely felt at least *something* the first time we hung out. Or I thought they were somewhat attractive and then they grew on me. I think it just depends. For me, I'm finding that blind dates are really difficult.

UDscoobychick · February 2012

BF and I "clicked" pretty immediately...I found myself wandering out to talk to him while he was waiting for his Zumba class to start, or he'd be sure to pop his head in the office to say hi to me. It wasn't a physical attraction but just that we got along and meshed really well. The physical attraction was a more gradual thing.

BowiesInSpace · February 2012

It was gradual, but I will say that no date with him ever felt forced. I went out with plenty of guys where I felt like we were both "on" or that occasionally conversation would lag. Some of those I would have gone out with again just to see if nerves had gotten in the way, some of those I wouldn't.

I went on a blind date exactly once and swore I would never repeat the experience. It wasn't bad in a disaster sort of way, but it was extremely awkward.

When I was dating, I was also a one-date wonder. It bummed me out at the time, but I look back on it now, and I totally understand why they never went any further. I had a fair number of frogs (and was a frog for some of them too).

PrettyInPearls23 · February 2012

There was something there the first time FF and I hung out, although I've known him for years. It was different seeing him as an adult for the first time, versus a 12 y/o boy who kept picking on me in an annoying sort of way. I wouldn't say that there were fireworks, but there was something there that obviously let to way more. I'd say by the 3rd or 4th date the fireworks started happening.

doglove · February 2012

There were lots and lots of sparks when we first met, but it all seemed very natural and not forced. We had a very slowly developed relationship, but yes - lots of sparks and overall chemistry at the beginning and as we got closer.

hainesherway · February 2012

lovelybb:
For me with D, it was gradual and looking back, I actually really like that. I've dated other men where the chemistry was very strong and it blinded me to the fact that ultimately we weren't all that compatible.
I thought D was attractive but I didn't want to jump his bones for the first couple of dates There was just something about him that intrigued me and it was very easy to talk with him... then the slow burn started and it's been going strong ever since!

This is exactly how things started off with L and I too!

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