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downer post, but need advice.
So you know how yesterday I said my BIL was having surgery. It was cancer removal surgery, they were just taking out his appendix as a precaution, they didn't know for sure if it was cancer. Turns out it is cancer, and it's stage 4. There are no real statistics on survival rates for stage 4 appendix cancer. It seems like the outcomes for 5 year survival are pretty bleak.
What can I do to support my husband and his family? I'm helping with the kids, and bringing my SIL food at the hospital, and just trying to be there, but I feel like I should be doing more.
Also if you have prayers, or any good thoughts you can spare for a miracle, that would be awesome.
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Re: downer post, but need advice.
Sending lots of prayers for your BIL and his family.
My sister and her husband are going through this now with my BIL's brother. He has stage 4 brain cancer and has been going through treatments. He isn't married but has a 13 year old daughter. Because of the treatments, he isn't able to stay by himself so he has moved in with my sis and BIL. Doesn't sound like that is something that would be needed with your BIL, but possibly helping out with rides to the appointments, picking up the kids or child care.
They also did a couple of fund raisers to help out with bills and expenses. You would have to check into the rules for those types of things, because I know they could only have a certain amount in the fund raiser account before there were tax or benefit issues...not really sure of all the details, just something to consider.
I know one of the fundraisers was a Taco and Karaoke night at a local bar that they worked out a deal with. They charged per person and had tacos for everyone. People paid for their own drinks so the bar made money too.
I'm really sorry that your family is having to go through this. Cancer sucks. It could be a long road ahead and sometimes there is great support at first and then it dwindles a bit. Just be there for them, they will need it. Big hugs and lots of prayers for you all.
Oh, MO, I'm so sorry to hear this.
It sounds like you are already doing all the right things. As you know, a lot of the time when people are 'in need' they don't even really know what it is they need help with so asking what you can do will usually just lead to them saying they don't need anything. Just keeping your eyes open for things that look like they need to be done (dishes, laundry, food prep, childcare) and then simply offering to do them (SIL, I would like to come over today and clean up your kitchen so you can rest, focus on other things, whatever) is a tremendous help.
Definitely saying an extra prayer for them today.
I will definitely add you BIL and family to my prayer list. {{hugs}} for all of you.
I think that what you are doing for them is great.
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I'm so sorry MO
I will keep them in my prayers.
Ditto the others that I think what you're doing is great. Helping them take care of those day to day things will give them the time to concentrate on what's important and I'm sure that means the world to them. If you're up for it, perhaps you could also help them with things around the house (cleaning and whatnot). Hugs, MO.
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Oh, that's awful MO. I'm so sorry. It sounds like you're taking the right steps. I'll be thinking about all of you.
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Oh MO, that's crappy news. Lots of thoughts going out to your family.
I think what beth and Neptoon suggested are great ideas. Keep your eyes peeled for things you can just offer to do, and make sure SIL stays sane.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
Oh MO, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I'll keep him in my thoughts.
I think what you're doing is great already, and I'm sure they appreciate it.
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