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Things that make you *eyeroll*
I was talking to an acquaintance about marriage, military-related stuff, etc. We got on the topic of movies and then:
Her: "You should watch the movie 'Dear John'! It's such a good military-themed chick flick! You'll love it!"
Me: "You do realize that it's about a selfish girl who f**s her soldier over while he's deployed, right?"
Her: :O
That movie annoyed the crap out of me when I saw it. And that was before I was married to or even dating my H.
Anyway...anything recent that someone has said to you that makes you want to bang your head against a wall?
Re: Things that make you *eyeroll*
People at work keep asking me is new Mexico is part of the US. I didn't think these people existed. But I was wrong.
Actually a lot of things people do/say at my new job make me smh
I changed my name
Some girl I went to high school with (haven't talked to her in years) PM-ed me on the dreaded Facebook a few days ago:
"How many times that you know of has your husband cheated on you while he was deployed? You know it's a right of passage while they're over there, right? I feel so bad for you."
ummmm....... yeah.......
Mine might be flame-worthy, but the Whitney obsession that has taken over my FB feed. I'm not discrediting her as a singer by any means, or that people can't mourn her death, but it's just annoying me. And yes, I know I can hide people.
It's not just Whitney, but it's a big pet peeve of mine how people try to make everything personal in tragedy or in triumph. Someone you graduated high school with passes away suddenly, and people are on Facebook saying "RIP buddy, I remember that one time 14 years ago that we walked by each other in the hallway but never spoke to eachother. Man I'll miss you," Now with Whitney they are posting every single song and how much it affected their life.
I agree, Beach. The Whitney hoopla is overplayed, as was Michael Jackson. And I'm glad I had cancelled cable before Joe Paterno died, otherwise I'm sure I would feel the same way about him.
I roll my eyes at people who stop me in public and tell me that wearing my 4 month old will prevent her from walking. Or the people who ask me if she's our first, and when I say "yes," they respond "Oh, well that's OK! You're young and can always try to get a boy for your husband."
*eyeroll*
There is a girl at my work who is from New Mexico, and one of our other employees asked her that very same question the other day. We were both floored.
Oh my god.
It never ceases to amaze me how people with no ties to the military like to believe all the stereotypes they hear, and have no shame saying them to people.
I just did a major eyeroll at someone on my FB. She has a status ranting about how her dream wedding is not a reality now, and since when do people really have to pay for their own wedding. Mind you she is already married via JOP. She then goes on to rant how nobody in her family is supportive or willing to go to her dream wedding in DisneyWorld, and how her and her H don't have $12k to pay for their wedding. It's taking everything in me not to tell her what a selfish entitled brat she sounds like.
One of my coworkers, who I adore, by the way, uses words incorrectly, or pronounces things incorrectly (and I do this too sometimes so I know I am not perfect)... I even write them down when she says them, because I think it is hysterical and she does it several times a day. Examples:
1. Ascertain instead of obtain, which is what she means
2. Supposebly instead of supposedly
3. Submissible instead of admissible (for court related convos)
4. ConfidenUality instead of confidentiality
There are more, too... lol
OMG what the hell? seriously?
Maybe you should tell her...In a private message that says it in the nicest way possible of course.
Dude, that's insane.
Ranting on facebook in general makes me eyeroll though. It's not a journal. I had a friend on facebook and she updated her status constantly, and it was always about her relationship. I knew when they were fighting, when they made up, etc. It was so obnoxious.
Thank you! I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.
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I know! I couldn't even respond to it--- I was too like wtheck?! Did this girl seriously just say that? I want to reply "My husband has cheated on me the number of times you have been called intelligent in your life, which I'm guessing is Zero."
I will be out in civilian clothes somewhere and some mention is made that we are a military family. More than once from perfect stranger (known as pf)
pf: Oh, I have so much respect for the military. It must be so hard when your DH is deployed.
me: No, not really.
pf: Really, I think that would be very difficult.
me: He's a civilian.
pf: Oh! Is he retired from the military?
me: No, he has never been in the military
pf: Well, then, how are you a military....(they start to get it here) family? YOU are in the military?
me: Yes. I am career military, DH is career skilled trades.
pf: (kinda awkwardly) Oh, well, how nice thank you for your service. But....um, didn't I hear you just mention something about your grandchildren?
me: Yes, there are plenty of women in the military who are grandmothers.
Admittedly, Michigan has NO active duty posts for any of the services so this isn't a military community the way it would be if there were bases/posts around here. Just still gets me when every once in awhile something like that still happens.
My biggest eyeroll is for my local military spouse group. They do informal get-togethers every other week and I went until I got sick of this convo:
Initial small about our kids, then it comes up that I work.
Them: Oh....YOU are active duty?
Me: Yes, both my husband and I are active duty.
Them: Oh...well thank you for your service. I just love my kids too much to leave them every day.
Me: Silence. (Thinking that evidently I DON'T love my kids?)
Of course every conversation is slightly tweaked from this...the last time I went I was talking about how awesome my daughter's daycare was when it came to potty training and another mother announced that she couldn't live with herself if she allowed someone other than her to potty train her son. But it always ends with my silence and their obliviousness of how rude their comments are. I don't go anymore.
Haha, yes.
People who don't know BASIC grammar kill me. I don't often correct people, but when I do, I hate it when people get so offended, like telling them they used the wrong form of "there" is the same as telling them their kid is ugly.
So-- I work in TV news, and everyone is generally quite literate, but here's a fun one. One of our anchors and I were talking, just casually. She said something like..."what do they have to conversate about?" I usually let that one sneak by, and don't correct people, but she's on the air, and God forbid she say that on the news! So, I politely tell her, "It's 'converse' not 'conversate.' 'Conversate is not a word." and I got the death stare for that one...yeah.
I hear "conversate" a lot, and every time it's like someone stabbed a needle in my eardrum. That gets an over the top eye-roll from me.
I am a teacher and I was talking to another teacher about how my students didn't understand the whole continent, country, state concept.
She then proceeds to say "Yeah, my students thought Africa was a state, I couldn't believe they didn't know it was a country!"
At that point I just walked out...Africa is a continent!
Again with the Whitney Houston thing. But with a twist. I have had many military friends post their anger towards the citizens of the US that they will mourn the death of a "singer" and yet there are many many Soldiers who have died and "we don't see you posting about them".
I get it. I really do. And honestly, I agree in a sense. But, instead of bashing everyone for it, why not just set the example and post about a fallen soldier yourself. KWIM? Don't waste your breath with anger towards them. Start posting what you want to see. I don't know, I just think if they are that passionate about it, they should be doing it themselves.
One of my students asked me "where is page 118?" when he was told to open his Algebra book. The only response I could come up with was "between 117 and 119." He got pretty red and embarrassed.
Ugh, my friends are too. One of them posted a link about a husband & wife who were deployed together, husband died, wife escorted his body home then found out she was pregnant. All I can think about is how they were banging while deployed to Afghan. I like rules though.
It irks me that the people upset about Whitney don't pay respect publicly to the fallen every day, but only when others get worked up about a celebrity death/ happening.
Posting about wanting advice/ Thoughts on FB then shutting down every single response or suggestion with the advice. Shut up with the I have a problem I can't fix attention scam.
I've defriended people because of this nonsense.