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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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bridal shower gift question--
a friend of mine is having her bridal shower this weekend-- i have no intentions on going! should i.....
send her a gift, as if i was going (usually would spend about $30-$40)
combine what i *would've* spent on shower gift with their wedding gift (in april) which we will be attending (usually spend about $100 + shower gift)
buy her a regular wedding gift, no need to add missing shower gift ($100 only).
♥ bfp2 02/15/2012 ♥ edd 10/23/2013 ♥
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
Re: bridal shower gift question--
This, exactly.
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Ditto.
FWIW, if it were my shower and someone couldn't come b/c they were about to have a baby, I wouldn't expect a gift regardless of how close we were.
i like this option a lot..but i will take into consideration what other pp's have said about omitting the gift altogether. we're not super-close..but i'm in the close-knit "circle"..just her and i directly are not super-close.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
In that case, I think it would all depend on the friendship circle's "politics." In my circle, a lot of the brides (from the last year or so) would be hurt if they didn't receive a present or a card from someone who couldn't attend the shower. Me and my friends are probably the more Bridezilla types, and I think a lot of us are very Receiving Gift Love Language types too.
If your bride is more chill, I don't think she can fault you for no gift. But it all depends on the circle's politics.
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My never updated Planning/Married Bio: http://mgoss228.weebly.com/
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yikes. good point. i just realized that the person i would've given the gift to bring to the bride--i didn't get her a shower gift last year when i couldn't attend. and i'm closer with her than i am with the current bride.
i just feel like i should get her a shower gift since bride just came to my baby shower......
guess i will just opt out of a gift or send her something....still deciding on that one!
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
So I absolutely cannot claim this idea, as I saw it at another bridal shower, but I loved it - if you're looking for an inexpensive but somewhat thoughtful (and unique) gift, I went to a bridal shower where one guest gave the bride a bottle of wine that would age well (say, 5-10 years) and a personalized card for the bride-to-be and her husband, with instructions to crack that wine on a landmark anniversary (based on how well the wine would age you could do 5-10 years).
Anyway, because you can get a nice bottle of wine for like, $20, it seemed like a cute gift idea because it's so different from everything else, but you don't have to spend a lot. If the bride-to-be isn't a wine drinker than it's not much help, but I loved the idea personally (I actually stole it from a shower where every guest was asked to bring a bottle of wine for a different anniversary, and I thought that was crazy cool).... just a thought since it would be easy to just pick up a bottle of wine and write a card!
Sounds like you have good advice from pp, so just wondering:
Why didn't you make this a clicky?
because i wanted to hear explanations too. if it's just clicky, people just click and run. i wanted to hear the reasoning behind it.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
all of this.
Yep.