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WWSO do? *Update*
So...because I'm lame in the dating world...need a little help.
Date #1. Went out with D on Thursday night. Had a nice dinner, and while he was very nice, there were a few mannerisms that really bugged me, I felt like I had to force the conversation. I did totally lead him on and give him a good night kiss ( partly because I had just dated "no kiss guy" and needed to get the first date kiss out of my system and hey-the guy is a good kisser, I'll give him that). We tentatively discussed getting together that Saturday, but nothing concrete. I got home and decicde that I really wasn't feeling it. He called Saturday afternoon wondering what I was up to. I got the message a few hours later and sent him a text saying that my plans went longer than expected and hoped he had a good night. Pretty neutral. Didn't hear back.
Got a text this AM from him wondering how my weekend was....I'm tempted to just not respond, but I don't want to be an a-hole. WWSO do?
ETA UPDATE: I had sent him a text back that was neutral yesterday. He called me last night and left a message. He then sent me a a "Happy Valentines Day! Did you get my message last night?"
Uh...dude. yes. I got it. Now what do I say back? I don't want to be the a-hole that now dumps him on valentines day. But....
Date #2. P and I had been emailing back and forth for a few days...loooong emails. We texted all night Saturday and both decided for an impromptu HH last night (he lives a bit further, so we met in hte middle) because I think we really were excited to meet one another. He was really cute in person, I enjoyed his personality and learning more about him. I was much more into P than D from a few night back. We talked alot more about dating, previously relationships, etc. which was a change from normal first dates I'd been on. He walked me back to my car...I got a hug and the "it was really nice to meet you!" and that's it. I had set myself up to expect more, so yes, I was dissappointed.
I left feeling "he's just not that into me". I havne't heard from him. Do I text him? Leave it? WWSO do?
Ah....I just suck at this dating thing.
Re: WWSO do? *Update*
I suck at dating too so take my advice with that in mind.
Date #1 - Personally I don't believe in just ignoring people unless they've done something really offensive. Even then I sometime will text them just to prevent them from texting me again out of the blue in the future. Usually something like... I really enjoyed meeting you but didn't feel the chemistry I am hoping for. Best of luck to you.
Date #2 - I could go either way on, I usually try to wait and see but if you really like him after a couple of days you could text him and say "I really enjoyed meeting you, let me know if you would like to get together again sometime". But really it hasn't even been a day since you met him right? I would just wait and see at this time.
Agreed. Also, and I know you already know this, but you really shouldn't go in for the goodnight kiss unless you're absolutely feeling it. You'll find yourself feeling less bad when things don't work out.
My thoughts exactly. It almost sounds like you are trying to be nice and avoid hurting D feelings and in the result got in an akward situation. Being honest hurts less than being played so it is always better to just say what you feel.
Agree with PP's. I would nicely tell D that you aren't interested, I think it's the more mature thing than just ignoring. If he persists after that, feel free to ignore.
The other guy, if you hear from him feel free to take it from there, but I wouldn't contact him. If he's interested, he WILL contact you.
Date 1: I think it's rude not to text him back.
Date 2: You guys just went out last night, calm down! lol. Give it a few days.
Thanks all.
D asked how my weekend was, so I sent D a pretty neutral text back as didn't want to say "my weekend was fine. Oh, and I dont' want to see you again as I wasn't feeling it!", KWIM? If he responds that he wants to get together, I will respectfully decline. I would want the same for me, so I don't want to be someone that does something I don't like (not respond). And no, I probably shouldn't have kissed him, but part of his mannerisms that bugged me were during the kiss...so I guess it was good to get that out of the way.
Date #2-yes, I know we only went out last night, but based on our interactions previously and last night's goodbye, I'm pretty certain about my intuition. I won't text...I'll see if he responds but move on in the meantime.