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WDYT
Last night, when Dagger and I got home, about 5 minutes later there was a knock at our door.
It was a girl who said she lived underneath us (we are on the 2nd floor of a 4 floor condo complex). She was really nice and seemed really nervous, but said that she could hear us in the apartment. Specifically said "I wake up when you wake up". She said she is in the middle of studying for medical boards (we are in the med center and there are tons of med students living there) but that they were Sunday and afterward she would probably never be around anyway. She asked if we could keep the noise down. She asked if we could hear our upstairs neighbors and mentioned that they had poor insulation between floors in the building.
She was really nice, I felt bad about it and told her we would definitely do our best to keep things down.
And this morning, I felt bad with any noise we made. And then I started thinking, you know, we are just making normal noises. Walking on the floor, not even heavy walking, getting ready for work. Certainly we have a toddler who runs everywhere and yeah, he will throw himself on the floor ocassionally if he throws a fit.
But we are not playing music or TVs loudly or having dance parties. This is normal living noises.
It's really not our fault that they have shiit insulation.
And, she moved into the 1st floor of a multifloor building that is known for having lots of short term residents (50% of the building is leased).
However, I don't think we have seen the end of her. I imagine she will either come to us again or go to the office.
But this is ridic right? Like, if she is that sensitive to sounds, she should either live on the top floor or invest in a sound machine or earplugs right?
Re: WDYT
I sympathize with her, as I'm very sensitive to noise, but there's not much you can do. If you're just making the type of noise that's ordinary for, you know, living, and not having a band practice she's just going to have to get used to it.
When I lived on the second floor of a house, I'd always keep my shoes off so it wouldn't bother the people downstairs. I would silently fume at the Bigfoots who lived on the third floor, but I knew I couldn't ask them to stop living their life.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
As long as your band isn't playing until 10pm on a weeknight, I think you're fine.
I forgot to mention Dagger's toddler band. Animal is the drummer.
But yeah, I am really trying.
But like, this morning. Things were good I thought. I was doing my best to keep the noise down with all the things i could think of. But then, Dagger wanted to touch my flat iron. Obviously, I couldn't let him. I tried to redirect him with my blush brush, which he usually loves, but he was not having it. He stomp cried into the bedroom and threw himself onto the carpet. It was 7. Surely, that woke her up.
But, I have no option to either give in to him or not have him tantrum, ya know.
I feel for her - I'm sure she's under a lot of stress. But, there's only so much you can do. Obviously you're trying to be considerate and be aware of any unreasonable noise you might be making. But, you don't need to spend life tip toeing around, and a toddler is going to be a toddler.
I'd say just try to keep being extra considerate for the next while til her exam stuff is over. If she complains again or to someone else, just say the truth - that you don't make noise on purpose, play music, etc. and that you are making a reasonable effort to eliminate any extra noise.
I have been in her shoes, and it sucks to study so much. However, unless she is under house arrest, she is not confined to her apartment and could go somewhere else to study. You make certain compromises by living in an apartment, and dealing with other people's noise is one of them.
She's probably just annoyed that she had a quiet apartment, and someone lives above her now.