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I was feeling bad about dumping date dude...
on Valentines Day no less.
So, my Date #1 I posted about yesterday (we went out, had a nice time, but after thinking about it I just wasn't into him). He called me again last night and left a message. Texted me this AM with a "Happy Valentines Day! Did you get my message last night?". I followed it with a "I'm did. I was busy as work with work all night as I have a big project deadline this week. Unfortunately, I'm going to be busy with work for the next few weeks." He texted saying "I want to see you when you're freed up wtih work!" and so...I broke it to him. with a "Hey, had a nice time, but just didn't feel the right chemistry. Sorry, but wanted to be honest with you"....
I felt SO bad about sending this on V-day...I mean, yes, it's better to be honest but Ouch right? I HATE making people feel bad (hence why I had a hard time with it) and on Valentines Day. What a ***, right?
I felt bad until he just wrote back defending all the reasons why we should give it more time and another chance.
Sorry dude....I'm just not that into you.
Re: I was feeling bad about dumping date dude...
I was (silently) following your post, and I'm so glad you bit the bullet and broke it off. Sounds like you're dodging a bullet with that one - yikes!
Did you respond to his second text about why you should give him another chance?
Ditto on the dodging a bullet!
Why oh why do guys feel the need to try to "prove" they're "the one" after we've clearly stated that they're not??
Also, yes, did you respond to his second text, or are you going to ignore at this point?
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
I haven't responded. I think I'm just going to leave it...I mean, I respect guys that have told me politely that they don't want to continue things (they're rare, but they are out there), so that was alot of my reasoning, too. But I bow out gracefully.
This was not so much bowing out gracefully.
I'm up for opinions, you ladies have some good advice, clearly!
and Date #2 hasn't responded, and that's fine. I'm leaving it rest. And moving onward.
Ugh. Same thing I've been dealing with. Dude, you're not going to talk me into liking you! And even if you did, why would you want to be with someone you had to talk into liking you?
I don't understand some guys that just can't take a no and leave it at that. I went out on ONE DATE with a guy once that when I told him politely I was not interested in seeing him again, he asked for specific examples of things that he said that made me not like him. He also continued to call, email and text me for two months asking me out again. Like I had never told him no. He called me on my birthday to ask to take me out to Chili's to celebrate
Then on Christmas day he texts me a picture of him flipping me the bird and says Merry Christmas. Whatever dude. Thank God I haven't heard from him since.
Whoa...that's crazy!
I don't think this guy is that kind of guy....but I guess you never know!
And I agree with PP-why would you want to 'be in a relationship with someone who you had to 'force' someone to give the relationship a chance?
And as a follow up...I didn't text him back. I did my part and left it at that.