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Re: Oh Baby Wednesday!!!
I have some non-baby comments but I had to say them before I got involved with the students and forgot them.
It's 55 degrees outside. Definitely not cold enough for the heater to be running but it is!
I didn't hear him say this yesterday morning but I saw him link it yesterday afternoon....but Kidd Kraddick posted something about how Bobbi Kristina should get a cut of the money from Dolly Parton (who wrote the song and sang it originally in another movie, which is why it was not nominated for an Oscar when it was in The Bodyguard) every time "I Will Always Love You" is played. Absolutely not.
DHs aunt went on Facebook last week and congratulated me for being pregnant..which I am not. I told her I wasnt, and she kepting asking, "Are you sure?" and I said yes, but she kept pushing for me to say that we are. DH even asked her who told her we were pregnant, and she said, "I sensed it." I again, had to explain to her, that I have proof that I'm not pregant. I mean, legit proof LOL. Then, DHs brother in law asked me if I was pregnant on Friday. Again, I said no. Apparently they've all noticed I've gained weight, and they think I'm pregnant. We're not not trying to get pregnant, but I just feel as if they're pressuring us. Just because DHs other siblings are pregnant, and have 4 kids.
Has anyone else had this or a similar situation happen? How did you deal with it?
Hey girls! I've missed talking to you!
I don't guess I have any baby-related news, except that I still want one?
Danielle, my MIL asked me the day after our wedding if I was pregnant. She has grandma fever BAD. She has backed off a lot. I basically told her I was glad she was excited that I was going to be the mother of her grandkids, but that she needed to stay out of my uterus.
It also helps that H's cousin is pregnant with twins. I can just deflect attention to her.
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Danielle, That's terrible! For her to say that on facebook of all places. We got a lot of pressure from day one, but never anything close to what you are dealing with.
Tomorrow we are coming out to a couple of Jeff's friend's family, if that makes sense. Pretty much the family we are traveling with and hanging around during Mardi gras. Since I won't be drinking the whole time and if anything comes up we want them to know. I can't wait to tell more people! I really want to be out in the open about it finally.
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My dad was pressuring my sister that she has to have kids, even though she doesn't want them. I piped up and informed him that it was her uterus, so she'd get to make the decisions about it. Just tell your prying family members that if a baby shows up in your uterus, you'll be the first to know, and you'll let them know when the time is right.
One of my friends announced her pregnancy on FB last night. She got married last summer, and I knew they wanted kids quickly, but it still kind of caught me off guard.
Confession: I ugly-cried last night at the parts store while getting my headlight fixed. I just had a breakdown about J being gone, for a lot of small reasons. The poor mechanic thought it was his fault because I had to wait a while, so he was trying to be funny to make me laugh (including dancing and making funny faces). I knew I was being ridiculous, but I just couldn't help it. Next week can't get here soon enough.
I am sorry that J is gone and cant be with you right now. I know how bad it sucks and it will be just a few more days till he is home.
Is this just a one time think or will it happen more?
My DS#1 has to have an ultra sound on his kidneys on Monday because he has blood in his urine and I am really worried that something major is wrong with him.
We've only been married 6 months before we decided to start trying, I'm pretty sure we will get the same reaction.
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time Angie. How long will he be traveling? We all have our moments and the guy seems really sweet.
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Clynn, I'll be praying for your little one!
This job is kind of a short-term, in-between thing, so hopefully just a one-time deal. But, that depends on how quickly he finds a real job here in the area. He should be home next week, hopefully before Wednesday because that's my birthday. It's looking like Monday, but he won't say for sure in case something comes up.
Angie, I know we don't know each other too well, but I totally know how you feel missing your hubs. Let me know if you ever need to talk.
On that note, TK and TN have been instrumental in surviving six months away from Andy.
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I appreciate that, and I appreciate all of you listening to me whine. I don't know how you handle it for that long, especially without an end in sight... are you guys planning to close that gap anytime soon?
Oh, Danielle
My mom "sensed" something once too...early on in our relationship. Except before coming to me first, she told other family members that I was and I think it was my grandpa that called (that part is a little fuzzy but I know it was not my mom and it being awkward) and said that he heard that I was pregnant. At the time it wasn't funny and I handled it by just ignoring my mom because she "senses" the craziest crap and talking to her just makes things worse.
I just think people are on super alert mode during your first few years when you gain a pound cause they haven't heard of the newlywed 15 or are sick and 'pregnant' is just where the mind goes to; even my DH has been guilty of this with me.
You know what? If you do it too quickly in others eyes, it bothers some. If you wait too long, it bothers others. Not every couple has the same time line so if you are doing what's best for you as a couple and doing what you two want to do, that's all that matters. It doesn't have anything to do with anyone else. You two will be the ones changing the diaper at 3 am not them.
Try not to let others opinions get you down during this happy time!
Clynn, Hope your little one is ok.
Stephanie - if you are reading, are you able to take book club next weekend?
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I had a breakdown on New Year's Day when I really, really missed him, but otherwise it's been okay. There are days (like yesterday) when something really cool is happening and I am super sad he can't be there with me. But we see each other almost every other weekend, so I get to hang on to that. I love doing things like making calendars for the grading periods, because it reminds me that there are only a few more weeks until I get to move out there!
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This last time that Bill was gone, I really missed him (I do enjoy some alone time for his shorter trips). They decided to send him on short notice (he got told Friday that he was leaving Monday) and it was exam week which is a light workload for me (only one test per class as opposed to multiple ones a week normally). I had dinner with Angela one night and Wendi another just so I made sure my voice still worked after 4 PM because I didn't talk to anyone once I got home.
During the early years of my parents' marriage, my dad worked out of town, sometimes for months at a time. My dad would leave Alpine, TX at 4:30 PM and drive all night to come home to see my mom and then turn around and come back on Sunday afternoon after lunch. My mom was much younger than many of us (19 when she got married) and had never lived by herself and only moved to Dallas (from Corsicana) when they got married. I never would have thought my mom was equipped to handle that kind of lifestyle. She even did it after Clark was born and my dad was working on top of mountain installations on the other side of NV. I'm sure she had her moments of weakness though but I was always impressed at how she handled herself. I'm not saying my mom was weak but it just didn't seem to be something she would have tolerated very well knowing her background. We even lived without my dad when we moved back to TX because he couldn't get a job here. Angie and Amanda, I think you're doing great and I think moments of sadness are to be expected. When you look back in 30 years, you'll remember the times that you were able to be together during this time with fondness because they were so special.
Unlike the countdown to the wedding this feels quick for me too. We are actually waiting until March 1st to tell the world. We will probably start with calling family and close friends. I wouldn't want one of my cousin's finding out from facebook I'm pregnant. It was an easier date to give our parents then Feb 24th or whatever. I don't really talk to my parent's as much any more so I don't know if they spilled the beans to anyone.
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The only "baby" related thing I have is that we hope to have our nephew visit for 2-3 weeks during the summer; this has not been ok'd by BIL and MIL. DH has been trying to come up with ideas of what to do and we are thinking a day camp one week (which is 11 hours per day- seems like a lot) and random stuff the next (Ranger's game, PWAT Family Night, pottery/ceramic place). DH's philosophy is "fabulous" and completely eye roll worthy: he hopes the camp will wipe nephew out so that we don't have to entertain him much at night and 24/7 the next week. There's more to this but I'll stop there.
Angie and Amanda (and Wendi if you are here)- You all have my sympathy. I've only been away from DH a handful of times in our entire 6 year relationship and while I think I could handle it better now than I did a few years ago when he was gone for a week, it would be SO rough. I was actually complaining the other day I have only been able to kiss DH on the cheek the last 3 weeks and then I remembered you 3 and became grateful for what I do have.
Video games? Is your nephew old enough?
Ugh, crazy busy morning for me ya'll. Plus TN is soooo wonky for me.
Deepthi, yes, I messaged the book club members on FB that I am friends with. I can certainly host February for everyone that wants to come. Only BL and Renee responded that they would be there and said they were fine coming to my house. To me, it looks like book club from here on out will only include those that are currently posting here--if anyone here is lurking and would like to be involved, you are certainly welcome.
So, in other words, yes, I can host February.
So awhile back, I was walking out of the gym thinking of nothing in particular when all of a sudden I had a "vision"--for lack of a better word--of Ben with a child. I have had a couple of nagging things like that that make me wonder if we should discuss it. But I really don't want to discuss it with him, so I haven't. He makes comments from time to time also that make me sad. But, he knew what he was getting into when he married me.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
Oh yeah he can totally do video games. I think we have enough to entertain him, it's just DH's philosophy on wanting him to visit so that we get to spend time with him but yet he hopes that he's pooped so it's not "go-go-go" that boggles my mind. I know DH thinks it's easy to have a kid and all that but I think part of it is that DH doesn't think he can keep up. I think (and hope) that this will be a wake up call.
Stephanie, Thank you so much! If you want I can host April since I messed this up. If you guys decide on the book next week and no one else wants April I'll do it.
I'm with, now I can't remember, on you girls being strong while your guys are gone. Jeff hasn't really had any out of town things since we got married. The longest we were apart was when I was in India. It sucked not even really getting to talk to him, but at least I knew I was going to go home to him at an exact time. Stay strong. We are here for you!
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This makes me sad (and again, sorry) for you guys. I think that the girls who don't post should still be a part of your book club. My last two cents.
This makes me sad too. There are times too when I don't want to talk to Bill about something that's bothering me. And I will admit to wimping out a few times. Hopefully, you guys can have your chat and make sure that you're both on the same page.
is there someone who could start a private facebook page for the book club so everyone could be invlolved.
Well I plan on being there, Stephie. I don't know why the others don't feel like they can partake.
Speaking of visions, I had something similar to a "vision" yesterday and it was crazy. We have a very long hallway in front of our office and I was at one end of it talking to a student while waiting on Marcus. I glanced up, saw Marcus with lunch in one hand and flowers in the other, finished up with the student and went to my office. Marcus was nowhere to be seen; there were no flowers on my desk. For those of you that watched Ugly Betty, do you remember Daniel seeing Molly at that awards thing when she was really at home? I partially freaked out and called him and he was about 2 miles away, alive. I guess he has a twin brother he doesn't know about?
@clynn--it is a Nestie book club, therefore all Nesties are welcome. The only reason we use FB is to give out the address of the person who is hosting for that month, since most of us are friends on FB. But for instance shortgirl isn't on FB--we just email her privately which we can also do. I'll make a post next week to get a headcount and anyone is welcome to chime in then.
@Julie--as sad as Ben not being a dad makes me sometimes, the thought of actually having another child at my age makes me sadder! I probably should let him get anything he might have on his chest off it though, even though it won't change my mind.
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Just do it!
Stephanie, hopefully the girls were just taking their time responding. Also, I hope your able to talk this out with Bill. I really don't have anything else to add and pray the best for you.
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