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One Date Wonder Post f/up (kind of long, sorry)
So I posted about going on a date on Sunday evening with M, who's a sweet, funny, single dad but I didn't feel an attraction. He texted me Monday night asking to go out again. I didn't get the text until the next day because I had fallen asleep early. I texted him back in the morning and said I had fallen asleep and was sorry I didn't reply (but didn't mention hanging out).
He said no big deal and said "you're probably going to get a ton of flowers on v-day from guys, huh?" And I was like "ummm, no!" So he said "well if someone were to bring you flowers, do you have vases at work?" I replied that we did and thought "oh crap, he's going to bring flowers, oh no, oh no".
Not long after I'm busy at work and he walks in, all confident and looking super handsome (well he was just dressed in jeans a sweatshirt but there was *something* about him that was different to me), with a bouquet of white and yellow roses, and a beautiful vase. He was like "Happy V-day, every pretty lady deserves flowers on v-day". And then he strolled out. I was stunned and all speechless and frankly giddy about it. All the girls in the office were like "who's that?? He gets major points and he's so confident!"
So I'm going to go out with him again to dinner on Friday. I'm still kind of in shock that I felt that way when I saw him because I was fully prepared to give him the "it's not you it's me" talk and make an excuse about having to study for the next few months. In fact, had I not fallen asleep the other night I would have texted him back something like that. Now I am glad I didn't and I'm looking forward to seeing him Friday night. I may have been a little too quick to jump to conclusions on this one!
Re: One Date Wonder Post f/up (kind of long, sorry)
Yay for feeling giddy! I'm excited to hear about his, achase, because I feel like you deserve to have that giddy feeling with a new relationship (or even just "couple of dates" relationship).
Definitely keep us posted!
awww, yay! i'm really excited for you.
don't you love that "something" that you just can't describe.
have fun!
Interesting. What made you keep going on dates?
Ditto dirtyred.
achase, after my divorce, I realized that the kind of men I was naturally attracted to were not the kind of men I could live with. So I vowed to look outside "my type" when I was ready to date again. When I met my husband, I liked everything about him but didn't feel that initial spark right away.
What kept me going on dates? I really, really enjoyed his company. He was so easy to talk to, so nice, and I loved his dark, subtle wit. I decided to give it some time to see if the spark would develop, and it did, somewhere around date four or five.
I'm glad you're giving this guy another chance. Good luck!
Awesome - I'm so happy for you! I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. Keep us posted!
Like taylor, I knew he was a great guy with wonderful qualities, and just going on "feeling a spark" had me dating not so great guys, so what could it hurt to see if anything developed? So I kept going out with him, and then hey, presto! A spark!