Scheduling Sex

RieC · February 2012

Since the very beginning of me and my husband being together we have always scheduled sex. We are both incredibly busy, so it makes sense. Sometimes it just seems so clinical or forced. Any tips on including spontaneous sex in or making scheduled sex more fun?

Btw, sex is amazing regardless. It can just seem like another to-do item.

Joy2611 · February 2012

Don't schedule sex? My husband and I are also incredibly busy and have never once scheduled sex. We also don't schedule date nights or any other ridiculousness. We know when things have been too long and we quickly want to hop back into bed (or a restaurant) together. Too long for us = about a week, by the way.

I understand why you want to schedule it, but when you do, it becomes another thing on a long to-do list and takes away any spontaneity or fun to the act.

Just try initiating on some random evening when he isn't expecting it.

~NB~ · February 2012

RieC:

Any tips on ... making scheduled sex more fun?

Btw, sex is amazing regardless.

Seems like a contradiction.

Nevtali · February 2012

Focus on anticipation? It can be fun to know a given night is a sure thing.

UDscoobychick · February 2012

Nevtali:
Focus on anticipation? It can be fun to know a given night is a sure thing.

This. Wear something sexy under your clothes to work that day, and text/email (not from your work account!!!) hints or suggestions as to what you're wearing, what you're going to do to him, what you want him to do to you, etc. Build up the anticipation.

Or, have sex at a different time or in a different location on the designated day. Let's say you always jump each other right before bed...try right after work, or first thing in the morning. Try on the couch instead of in bed. Try a new position.

amberlynnr7 · February 2012

No offense, butu scheduling it IS asking for it to be chore-like.

If I were you, I would try not scheduling it for a little while & see how it goes. I bet you will find it is much more fun this way

grimmeaa · February 2012

We do this all the time! When we first started having sex we only saw each other three times a week because of our different work schedules and would "do it" every chance we got. Now we live together are getting married in two weeks-ish and have a four month old and STILL schedule sex. But to help you out..... on those days he knows to come home happy and willing to help me in any way and in return her gets some secret action while he cooks dinner or a sexy text or just THE LOOK from across the room while the baby is awake. After that game on sister! We have realized that its the little things that count, stuff that you did before when you first started dating! have fun

riderpunk · February 2012

I don't see any issues with this. You schedule everything else..I know I do anyway, why not? We schedule time for each other that we disconnect from our jobs, phones, etc, and have date nights, whether it leads to sex there is no pressure, but its our time. If we didn't set time, we would never see each other, both of us work like most couples and sometimes the only times we see each other is in passing in the nights, as we are sleeping. So scheduling time, go for it..see if it works. Try doing weekly date nights, try new things in the area..etc.

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