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Anyone see TN's marriage secret #3?
It went down pretty quickly but a poster on a TK board I post on pointed it out. TN had an article up called "Marriage Secrets You Should Never Share with Your Friends" (LINK) and #3 was that you shouldn't share if you've had a miscarriage or an abortion. You can see people reacting in the comments even though they took the slide down pretty quickly.
It said:
You've Had a Miscarriage -- or an Abortion
If you follow the three-month rule (don?t tell anyone you?re pregnant during the first trimester), you don?t even have to worry about explaining a miscarriage. But even after the fact, it?s best to keep it to yourself. Or maybe for one reason or another you decided not to see your pregnancy to term. Some friends may criticize your choice, while others may support it. Either way, it's a difficult decision that's no one else?s business.
Here's a MM link about it too.
And they posted a lovely "sorry you got offended" apology:
Dear Nesties, We apologize for the offense many of you have taken to one of the slides in this story. It certainly was not our intent to offend anyone. We meant to offer advice that would protect and empower women, and we truly regret that our message was misinterpreted. We also appreciate that you've called us out on this. We are always listening to you. As a result, we're removing that slide from the story. Please be patient as our publishing system takes effect within the hour or so. With love, The Nest editors.
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Re: Anyone see TN's marriage secret #3?
This! I am so glad I don't read TN articles. I usually just get annoyed at them and on a bad day I get offended.
Ummm, so if you are 20 weeks pregnant and have a miscarriage, and someone asks you how the baby is doing...... do you just go "oh, fine" or "what baby?"
This is ridiculous advice.
I followed the three month rule, told people at 12 weeks, and had a miscarriage at 14 weeks. So everyone knew.
It ended up being a good thing because SO many people that would not normally have told me about their miscarriage shared their story with me, which helped me realize how common it actually was.
This advice is stupid.
Why would someone say that? I believe that telling people can actually help you. You may not realize that you have friends that have been there and can help support you.
Stupid advice IMO
Oh. Wow.
Yeah, I'm getting sick of the hehe I'm just a dumb woman attitude on TB but I can see how the site fosters that sort of attitude.