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Confessions/Vents?
It's been quiet here... I just turned in my final project for my Masters and I have no meetings today so I had time to think of some confessions/vents that have been building up.
Confession: I judge my friends who play me a word on Words with Friends when I know they are at work... even though I waste work time other ways (clearly!).
Vents:
Twice in the past week two different people have said "retarded" at a work meeting. And not in the proper context. Ugh, you are both intelligent people, find a new word! It's completely inappropriate.
My mom has jumped on this bandwagon the media is promoting lately where they have been talking about how dangerous yoga can be. She thinks I am going to have a stroke while doing a headstand. Meanwhile, she smokes a pack of cigarettes a day. Who do you think is more likely to have a stroke?
Any confessions/vents?
Re: Confessions/Vents?
Not sure which this one would fall under -
I want my husband back. I'm not complaining AT ALL about taking care of him or anything like that....I just want some normalcy. He did A LOT around the house since he worked from home and it is now all falling to me. That's fine, but it's exhausting and sometimes <insert super whiney voice> I don't wanna! It's not just that, it's the weekends of running errands together, taking Jackson out for long walks...etc. I want all of that back. In due time.....
Moving on...
- I HATE when couples have conversations with each other on FB. A simple happy birthday, or I love you...okay fine. But my one friend wrote on her husbands wall the other night this looooong thank you for her valentine's flowers, cutting the fruit, etc. He's sitting next to you on the couch - turn to him and tell him.
- DH has some pretty good friends (at least I thought they were), that haven't reached out to him since he had his surgery. Not a text message...nothing. I know everyone has their own lives - I get it. But a text message to check in? Really? You really find out who your true friends are when you go through a major life event....good and bad.
- I can count on one hand how many times I've put on jeans since DH had surgery. And I don't feel the least bit guilty or grimey. I've loved every second of my sweat/fleece pants indulgence.
I hate the ER/hospital (except L&D). I've spent days curled up in uncomfortable chairs while DH was in the hospital. Would it kill them to have a semi-comfy chair for the family member who sits there all day?? (ETA: yes, of course, DH's health is the real issue)
Sometimes, when I'm alone with DS, I find myself checking the clock to see when it will be time for his next bottle/nap/whatever because I am tired/bored.
My one friend is always late. ALWAYS - usually by 30-45 mins. It's so rude and I think she is finally beginning to realize that it's rude, or at least that we're irritated by it, but seriously?! Be on time...ONCE.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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Vent: I am such a dumbazz. I forgot one of my pump parts and now I have to pump one side at a time today, ARGGGHHHHHH.
Vent: I really hate when people release balloons. Why don't you just go dump some trash directly in a stream or river because that is essentially what you are doing.
ETA: I have more
Vent: DH cracked my rib last night. No, not what you are thinking, we were horsing around and he picked me up and gave me a huge bear hug. I heard something make a popping noise and I practically collapsed on the ground in pain. Now it hurts to lay on that side and to breathe too deeply
He really doesn't know his own strength
Confession: I really need to stop my weird obsession with looking at real estate I can't afford. I do it for hours at a time sometimes. Sometimes in different cities thousands of miles away that I will never move to, I like to pretend I am house hunting there.
AMEN! I couldn't agree more. I don't specifically hate the hospital - but we've had different experiences the last month or so. haha
My friend and his girlfriend are like this--it drives me crazy. I just don't understand why they can't pick up the phone and talk about certain things instead of posting them on FB for everyone to see. It's so annoying.
Ditto!
VENT: DH has been working really long hours lately. And its really been a PIA. I have to rush home from work to relieve my mom from picking up DD from daycare since DH is working late and I can't leave work in time to get her before DC closes. Then I have to find the time to make myself dinner while feeding DD.
Confession: The past two nights, I've put DD to bed as soon as she shows the first sign of being tired. Both nights this has been before DH has gotten home, resulting in him not seeing her. My hope is that he says something to his project manager and would at least get to leave the jobsite a little earlier to see DD before her bedtime.
I should have been more specific to say I hate the hospital chairs and not so much the hospital itself, but I also hate the waiting.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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I have not figured out how to manage this. On the nights I have DS alone, I either go through a drive thru or I just don't eat dinner.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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Vent: I really hate when people try to have an argument / are in the midst of a misunderstanding and immediately try to make things a racial issue. REALLY?!?
Confession: I almost got into a fight on the train on the way home last night because a girl thought she could play that card and be rude not realizing that I wasn't going to be the "scared white girl" and back down to her. And she obviously thought she could throw that card and get support from the predominantly black passenger count in the car...too bad she didn't know they're my friends and we ride the train together every day. She got arrested when the train pulled in to Penn Station. So there!
I mildly flipped out on DH last night and I feel terrible about it. We were going through our normal planning for the weekend and we have a ton of stuff to do. We didn't paint our master bedroom last weekend and our new bed is getting delivered on Tuesday so we need to paint ASAP.
DH said, "well that's that for this weekend. Anything else going on?"
I just stared at him and said, "um, my birthday."
He momentarily forget my birthday! I don't mean like he playfully forgot, he legitimately forgot about my birthday.
I kind of flipped out and I feel bad.
Vent: With DS I had the perfect PG, no m/s, heartburn, #2 issues, it was heavenly. I'm only about 7 weeks in and I have had heart burn and m/s, and it sucks. I have to sit in a meeting with SES's this afternoon and I need to do something so that I don't look like death walking.
Confession: I bought Girl Scout cookies back in January from a co-workers daughter, they were on my desk when I got in this morning. I've already had a row of Samoas (so like 5) and I'm eyeing tht do-si-do's right now. They are about the only thing that seem appealing right now. I just hope they don't come back up.
I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding in September (i know I've vented about this before.)
It's just like........it's always something. This friend, while great and loving and I adore her, has a selfish streak.....its not even selfish bc that sounds malicious and negative, maybe just clueless is a better word? Like she has blinders on where anything else but what she wants is concerned. It's not intentional, and she's not a bad person at all, this is just a personality quirk. She gets surprised by things or will all the time say "I didnt think of it like that" when really, as a 30 year old woman who has lived on your own more or less for 8 years, you SHOULD think of that, you know what I mean?
anyway - like I said, it's a personality quirk and most of the time it just kind of makes me laugh and say "oh that's so something she would say" or whatever. But with wedding planning this cluelessness is no longer cute or charming or quirky. It's actually becoming annoying because her sense of privilege is coming through and her feelings of "whatever i want, so be it" (she said that once) are becoming more prominent.
Nothing affects me (so far) but every email from her about her wedding drives me up the wall because this attitude comes through. I honestly didn't realize it would be like this but it's becoming an issue unfortunately.
wow i sound like a bad friend. Sigh. Maybe I should just adjust my expectations and act accordingly.
What?! Details (it might help the board move along today too
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Oh...she threatened the people who were coming back at her on her ignorance and said she was going to take her shoes and bash in our foreheads and she didn't care about getting her security clearance if it helped to back down another "uppity white b!tch". Someone went and told the conductor about her threatening people and he came and she screamed at him as well. He radioed Penn Station and 3 BCPD officers were waiting for her at the door to the car when she stepped onto the platform. She then completely went off and started crying and flailing. It was quite a scene!
Confession--We are doing the Biggest Loser at work and while I want to lose weight and try really hard, I had Junior Mints on my car ride in. I didn't count this as "breakfast" thought. I also had a can of soda yesterday morning, but I will blame DS for that one
Vent: DH moved something that I couldn't possibly move into the house yesterday and went to the bakery to get prices for DS's cupcakes for his birthday. I went and bought said piece of furniture and went to 3 different places prior to yesterday to do the same thing. I didn't flat out say THANK YOU and he got the biggest attitude about it. I was like WTF are you so angry about and he said that he did all this stuff for me and he didn't get a thank you. I know I should have said thanks, but since I didn't say those 2 simple words, he threw a b!tch fit. Since I was so annoyed, I said THANK YOU after everything he said or did for the rest of the night. Needless to say, it wasn't a pleasant night at our house last night..lol
ditto! this needs details!!
I've seen lots of almost fights on Penn trains - but nothing racially motivated or seen anyone try to make it that way. Generally - they are just azzholes trying to hog seats.
a person like that probably shouldn't be getting/have a clearance to begin with, good she was arrested. What started it in the first place?
Riding public transportation can be so entertaing sometimes!
I love my husband. I do. He doesn't think about things before he speaks. It's like he lacks a filter or that instinct that is supposed to say to him "Hey before you open your mouth and say what's on your mind you should think about it. Does it make sense? Will it piss someone off? Will it hurt someone's feelings?"
Scenario: We were discussing trying to implement a cleaning schedule for around our house. I was thinking of all the stuff that needs to get done, how often, etc. I say to him: "You know I need help around here. I feel like since Charli has come along I don't have a lot of time to be able to do chores. I need a few hours where you watch her so that I can do whatever needs to be done. You know I have A.D.D. and I can be doing something and then she'll cry and I lose my train of thought."
So what does DH say? "Can't you just do the things when she's sleeping?"
WTF? Really?
Ugh, this gets a throat punch!! I got nothing done around the house when DS was that age because he wasn't a good napper (not that he is now). But I offer things up as a choice to DH: "I need you to either watch DS while I do xyz, or you do xyz while I watch DS".
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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I had to take a deep breath in order to not reach out and twist his nipple off. I think I said something like "Did you really just say that? So you can't spend time with OUR daughter while I clean up OUR house and OUR messes? Let me add all of this list to the other list of stuff I do. What's on the list of stuff you do around here? Your own laundry... that's all I can think of."
I agree! Well, she was angry and horrible to begin with, coming on (on her phone talking and cursing loudly to her MOM? from the time she boarded to when she left and even when yelling at the cops) and ordering a lady to move so that she could sit down. Then she pulled out Chinese food that smelled sooo horrible and proceeded to shovel it into her maw while screaming into her phone about how she didn't go to college to walk between buildings/offices for work, she went to make money and wear nice clothes *gag*. F this F that. She ended up in the window seat (single level car) and I was on the aisle the row behind her. The 4-5 rows at the back of that particular car are always full of the 5:20 train regulars who all know each other and are friends. There was a lively conversation (not unusual) about same sex marriage going on toward the door, and I stood up and leaned on the seat in front of me (empty) and was commenting on the conversation. She laid into me and asked who the hell I thought I was leaning over and disrespecting her like that...and then proceeded to address me as "Becky" (what I later learned was her stab at a stereotypical white girl name) and tell me I wasn't going to trample all over her just because I thought I was entitled. I asked her whether she realized how rude she had been for the last hour subjecting everyone on the car to her profane telephone conversation...and then it was on. She went on about how I looked old and then oh no she's not old she probably just had a hard life...you know how white b!tches age real nasty anyway. Then to I prob don't make any money and blah blah blah...I kept laughing at her and she was infuriated. Then the threats came and others started to jump in and tell her she was an absolute fool. It got pretty tense and nasty. I seriously thought she may try to hit me but I'll be darned if I was going to back down to someone so ignorant and stupidly angry with no rationale behind it. I kept asking her why she was so angry and why she was directing her anger onto complete strangers on the train. She just got livid and then the threats started. She was trying to get in people's faces and make further promises to follow up on her crazy words. She's certifiable, I truly believe.
Lwilli- That is a crazy story!! Good for you not backing down! I hate when people try to intimidate others based on race! Come on people, really!!
My vent:
I hate my job!! Well, not really my job, just the people I work with. They have no clue how to work in a University and think the students are in their way of getting their work done. They have no respect for me and they micro manage everyone here!! I went to the bathroom and was asked where I was because i was out of my office for longer than 5 minutes. Now mind you I work in Student Affairs, so meeting with students outside of my office happens all the time for personal reasons. They have no clue how to respect others and I feel really bad for the students!!
Thank goodness I'm not there today or Monday. I definitely needed a break!