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ok really really do need advice here
I have really HAD IT with my uncle!!! He keeps writing me these crazy emails about how horrible my mother is and exaggerating about how my grandmother "isn't safe" with my mom in the house. He keeps asking me to kick her out! (like it's my decision, or as if I had any power to do that. lol) This is complete and utter bullcrap and I think he's trying to make a record of fake allegations to show against her one day (in court?).
He doesn't listen when I tell him not to involve me. He likes to email me this blather at 9am so when I walk into work I get really stressed and upset. 
Next Tuesday we are supposed to FINALLY go together, all of us, and get the trust done for my grandmother's assets. I am dying to tell him to go eff off but I need him present on Tuesday. What should I do?! Write him back? Ignore him? It's getting so hard to be patient with this person. ARGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!
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"I'm sorry, I haven't checked my email in a few days."
If he calls: "Oh, I don't know anything about that." Don't engage and he'll eventually stop. Either he's building a case or he's an aw-ing drama queen. You can't do anything about the first until it happens, but you can fix the second by not giving him his soap opera fix.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
No, he doesn't email my work address. He texts me, calls me, and emails both of my personal emails in a barrage all at once. I ignore the calls because I can't handle the stress of talking to him on the phone. It gets ugly. Emails are better, because I can choose my words, if I respond.
He is such an intense person, and so stubborn that if I have any defense towards my mom, then I'm "on her side" and "living in denial". I am SO NERVOUS about Tuesday. I'm afraid of what's going to happen. He is all in a rage because my mom suggested that we go to a different lawyer after my uncle's lawyer made mistakes with previous paperwork. Of course, that's a huge deal, and he's all offended. UGH.
I am worried because I feel like I lose either way, or mess things up. If I write back and tell him he is wrong about my mom, he will be more upset. But if I ignore him, he'll get frustrated and maybe not come on Tuesday. This sucks.
It's obvious what direction he is going. It sounds like these are tirades that just upset her. And regardless this is something that has to be legally resolved.
But I would block him if it were work email just because that is not something I want floating around on work email.
Personal email? , eh...just ignore then.
I would keep my responses to him at a minimum. Probably enough to keep him calm, but not enough to bring any new tension. Keep all written evidence. Since he has a lawyer, chances are that he is getting coached by him to document...whatever. If you can compile your own evidence to contradict his statements, I would do that.
Sorry you have to deal with this d-bag. Hopefully Tuesday will move forward and you can get what you need in place.
Why is it your job to get him there in Tuesday? This is a big huge mess and you can't control any of the other people in it. He may or may not show, and he may or may not rant and rave.
Exactly. He's giving you the illusion that you can control whether he shows up or not, or gives your mom a hard time or not. It seems to me he'll decide when to throw his fits regardless of what you do and this is just a way of drawing you in. Follow Fallin's advice for when you have to respond.
Also, your mom needs her own lawyer and to know what her rights are here. It sounds like he wants to cheat her out of something and all this noise is to distract her from what it is, or rattle her so she gives in. If I were you, I'd suggest taking Grandma because Grandma might be willing to listen to a lawyer when with her son, she just caves because she relies on him. As crappy and sexist as it is, a male lawyer might be better in case your grandma only listens to penis-havers.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Thanks everyone. It was honestly a day from hell yesterday. I was emailed 3 different times and called twice throughout the day from him. I stupidly responded to one email because he had the nerve to accuse my mom of "stealing" money from my grandmother to help me pay for my wedding. Yah.
I couldn't help but to let him know that a) it was my grandmother's GIFT to me for getting married and b) frankly none of his damn business.
His response was over the top and spewing rage again, and I'm following everyone's advice and ignoring him now. He really has crossed the line with both my mother and now me. I want nothing to do with him once the trust is finalized. He is so incredibly toxic, and I'm just sick over this.