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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Question re: if he was in denial about the divorce
I am planning on filing next week and, hopefully having him served soon after (if I can find out where he is staying). He is in total denial about all of this, even though I have told him I am filing for divorce, and continues to send me emails asking to meet so we can talk, etc. I have listened to his "talk" for the past year plus and there has been no follow through and nothing has changed.
If your XH or STBX was in denial about the whole thing, how did he react after the divorce filing?
(I am posting and running to the gym, but I will be back, so thanks in advance!!)
Re: Question re: if he was in denial about the divorce
Based on my life experiences I would expect him to turn on you. I don't know what your plans are but my advice to you is to take everything and I mean EVERYTHING or else you will never see it again. Mark my words. And if he is the one leaving, immediately change the locks.
Once men realize it's over they turn on you like a rabid dog. Even the sweetest guys will do it.
It depends on his personality. My XH got very upset, called my family crying (I would not answer his calls). Then he got angry, very angry. My atty suggested leaving the state or town overnight when he got served so that I would be safe if he came after me. He went through these sad, angry then begging stages up until our divorce hearing. He was in such denial that he asked my mother, at the courthouse for our divorce hearing, whether I would reconsider.
I hope you find your XH and that he is calm and doesn't freak out on you.
XH wasn't in a stable frame of mind when I filed (addicted to drugs) so his reaction was pretty crazy. He kept showing up at my house and calling so I had to get a TRO.
Try not to worry about his reaction. You're filing because it's what's best for you.
I was served 8 months ago and it was a surprise though not really unexpected it that makes sense. I didn't touch his things. And I was mad at him for being an assholio in the way he did it and during the divorce process. I am pretty sure he expected me to destroy his things though because he feels less guilty if he can portray me as a mean b!tch. Nope loser. Try again.
Thanks everyone!
I am expecting him to freak out. I guess I will have a lock smith ready to go next week.
Ugh. I hate this. I really really hate this.