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School Issues (Long)
So I had to withdraw from school this month because of issues with my demonstration teaching.
I was supposed to start demonstration teaching in Jan. but DH talked me out of pushing myself to get the courses completed because he thought I was being to hard on myself after my major breakdown in Oct. I could have finished the work and I could have started my demonstration teaching, but the ECT would have been problematic because I would only be allowed to miss 3 days of DT and at that point I was doing ECT every 5 days. I could have fought it, gone to the disability resource center and applied for special consideration. But mostly it came to the fact that DH wanted me to slow down so I did. I finished my schooling end of Jan. Because there is no DT until Aug. and the school only allows for term breaks of three months I was forced to withdraw.
I have been out of school for 16 days and its driving me batshitcrazy. I'm not moving forward anymore and I hate it so much. So I've been investigating my options. I could go back to school and get my bachelors degree w/o getting my teaching license. Then I could do the state's alternative route to licensure. It's basically a way to get a license while working in a school. So instead of paying to work in someone's class I could be getting paid to get my license. But it's a huge gamble. Currently there are over 900 people enrolled in Utah's alternative route to licensure and less then 36% are actually employed and working towards their license.
But I've got that figured out, too. If I don't get a job, and I'm looking at working in special ed I know that there are open jobs, I can go back to the school and do the post-bachelorette licensure program. It'll cost me an extra semester, but at least I'll be making forward progress.
The problem with the plan is DH HATES it. I've brought it up twice and he got irritated at me both times. This last time he said "Do whatever you want," but in that way that you just know he isn't going to be happy. Now part of his issue is that moneys short and if I wasn't able to do the alternative route to licensure it would cost me an additional $2490 for taking the extra semester.
So I want to go back to school, but the problem is maybe I'm not thinking this whole thing out objectively. What is the best move? Should I listen to DH and cool my heels a bit or should I jump back into school and start progressing again?
Re: School Issues (Long)
God this! How many times now has your H now talked you out of things that you've really wanted?
I 3rd this and I'm a lurker - I'm side-eyeing the crap out of your DH right now.
What is his deal with you and school? He seems to not like any of your options/choices/ideas . . .
Ditto, ditto ditto!!
Tell us all about how your H is a great guy who just has your best interest at heart. That story was fascinating!
Your H is a controlling dovcher. One day I hope you finally wake up to this fact so you can move on with your life and finally find your place in this world.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Lurker here too - me thinks your DH doesn't want you healthy and motivated because he realizes you'll wake up and walk out.
Now I'm even more confused. We went to see our marriage counselor yesterday and he sided with DH. He said I'm being obsessive and I have too much of my ego wrapped up in a predetermined timeline. He said financially it makes no sense not to go with the course guaranteed to get me my license. He said that I'm piling on the debt unnecessarily.
I'm going to talk to my therapist about it on Weds. He knows me and I trust him.
I have a feeling your H has your therapist duped too. And because you have a history of mental illness, it's SOOO easy for your H to make himself out to be the one with his shyt together.
I'm so grossed out by your H, I can't even express it. I don't think you'll have anything in this life if you stay with him. With him, you'll constantly have dreams that are just out of reach (and someone who keeps reminding you that you don't get to decide what's best for you).
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes