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So I know this horse has been beaten mercilessly, but...
I am concerned about BVal. I know she is probably just being a melodramatic AW on her blog, but when she talks about "removing herself from society completely" and "being a failure at everything" it sets off some warning bells for me.
I would feel awful writing her off as an attention-seeking drama queen and not heading the potentially suicidal language there. The other question is, what do you do even if she writes that she is going to off herself and that's it? I have no way to contact anyone related to her or anything.
I could just be sensitive to the language due to various people in my life killing themselves, but it concerned me and I thought I would get TIP's opinion.
I have no idea if she is serious about it or just doing her random stream-of-consciousness thing that makes no sense. Blah. 
Re: So I know this horse has been beaten mercilessly, but...
REALLY?!
You're feeding into exactly what she wants.
I know this might get me flamed...
but I honestly don't give a shyte.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
This too. In my experience, the people who ACTUALLY want to kill themselves don't go around telling everyone because then someone might get in their way.
What she's doing is textbook attention-seeking behavior. Not only does she want the attention, but she also wants to come on here (because we all know she's lurking) and see posts like this where people start to double-guess how they treated her in the first place.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I thought long and hard about this last night. How much substance abuse do you think is going on there?
I would say at least prescription drug abuse. I think she's admitted to that much. But do you think the rest of it could be contributed to that?
I could be just projecting, but I know someone in my own life who claimed to be deathly ill, and it turned out it was the 9 bottles of whiskey she hid in her closet, the horse tranquilizers she mixed in her Pepsi and the prescription drugs she raided from her friends and family.
Maybe she just needs some rehab.
I know and I hate doing it. I debated even saying anything at all, but I figured I would put it out there. I won't flame you for not caring. In fact, I kind of flame myself for even giving a shyt myself.
She knows people are reading too because of the "post count" on her blog. She just made a comment (yesterday?) regarding the rise in views.
And I love that she's so whatever-she-is to not be able to work, walk, get her own f00king pills... but dying her f00king hair was on the top of her to-do list.
She just doesn't want all the responsibilities and bs that come with being an adult. But she'll never admit that to herself. Instead, she's going to invent things in her head to excuse her Peter Pan syndrome.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I think so too. Also, maybe some in-patient care would help get to the root of the conversion disorder.
She's also paying very close attention to TIP (and I'm assuming ML). In her daily blog posts, she references when people talk about her. She may have messed up her password so she couldn't post, but she sure as hell is lurking.
::waves to Crazycakes!::
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Yep.
You're sweet, Betty, and I get why reading those things would upset/worry you. But I think that most of the time, if someone is really determined to end their own life, they're actually pretty secretive about their plan and at peace with their decision. They don't want anyone deterring them.
Exactly. My BFF in high school was the HUGEST AW. I can't even COUNT the number of times she called me to tell me that THIS was it, she was taking herself out. The first 10 times or so, I freaked out... did everything I could to get to her and get her to stop. Then I realized that she had no intention of doing it... she just loved the attention. I finally basically told her "if you're going to kill yourself, get a move on it"
The people I've known who've committed suicide, you wouldn't have guessed that they were even considering it.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
That's it. I can't do anything.
I think I feel better going with the AW behavior verdict & she won't do anything.
Did you see her most recent post where she's all "no doctors will see me til the day before infinity... doctors sucks"?
Do you REALLY think she's done everything in her power to get an appointment? Do you really think any doctor would hear "I can't walk at all" and would go "okay... I have an opening May 2014"?! She's full of shyte... and her blog posts just keep proving this fact.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
She can't come up with the energy to write her med/symptoms list, but she can write ridiculously inane blog posts?
Yeah, she's speshul.
This is exactly what went through my head as I read the latest post.
Or energy to play Minecraft.
Or energy to hang out with Annie.
Or energy to talk to friends on the internet for hours on end.
Or energy to go to Mall of America.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Oh don't remind me I may get to see her at the MOA. Don't worry, I'd take pictures for you all.
All I know is if I woke up one day unable to walk, I'd dial 911 stat. I'd go to the ER. I would not just wheel myself around like, 'OH, bother!" I'd wheel my ass to the nearest emergency room and sit there until someone, anyone, took me to a room or to jail.
I went to a doc today that took 2 months to get into. I needed to see this specialist, and it was a HUG E PIA. However, I also knew if my symptoms got worse at ANY TIME I'd go to the ER and almost did several times.
I did not post about it on my blog. Or TIP. Or Facebook. I just dealt with it like an adult.
She was always very nice to me. If she has suicidal thoughts I hope she seeks help. If she cannot walk and continues this merry-go-round I hope she seeks help, both medically and mentally.
I keep typing out text and deleting it because it either has way too much personal information about myself or is way too mean. Or both.
Either way, I don't see it. Ten years ago, I might have seen some of the things she has said as red flags, but having experiences what I have in the past decade has given me a perspective from which I would be extremely surprised if she did anything serious to herself.
That said, I haven't actual read the blog since shortly after all of this blew up. I just don't find it to be a very interesting read.
I went back to read the blog and remembered the real reason that I don't read it.
Mrs. "Oh hai I'll just zip back into school and get a CS degree and work with DH LULZ" can't manage to choose a blogger template that's legible. It's especially bad on my phone, where I've been doing most of my blog / WashPost reading lately.
I can't stand the background, it hurts my eyes.