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Tell me what to do. FB related.
So, there's this girl I work with. And well... she's "special". Like short-bus special. She's got borderline Aspergers, some form of tremors, and she's the most socially awkward person I know (and I know that's because of her condition, but it just makes work SO much harder). I can't stand to be around her. What makes it worse is that she worships me... Ugh. I am seriously a really nice person, but I just can't be nice to her. I try my hardest, but my fuse is so short with her. I have no patience for her, and just... well, I think you get the picture.
She wants to be friends on FB. I don't want her knowing everything I do! I'm really tempted to ignore her and just not friend her, but I think it'd hurt her feelings, and it's not like I post a ton on FB or anything... But still. I guess I could hide her or something, right?
What do I do?! HELP.
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Re: Tell me what to do. FB related.
Are you friends with other people from work on FB? If so I say friend her and he conscious of what you post.
If not - perhaps let her know you keep Facebook for close family only? If your page is pretty secure, she wouldn't know otherwise?
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If you say you didn't see it, she'll just re-send. The excuse that you don't friend ppl from work for privacy, whatever is good if you're not friends w/ other ppl from work.
Otherwise you can limit what she can see. I have prosecutors and court staff who send me facebook requests, which is very awkward b/c I don't want to be friends w/ them, don't want them to know my business, but don't want to offend anyone. So, I usually accept them and them set as many privacy settings as I can to limit what they see of me.
Ignore, and I wouldn't feel bad either. Personal and work life doesn't always have to mix and it's your choice, it's FB after all.
ETA: I agree that if she asks say that you prefer not to be friends with people you work with (hopefully you aren't with others). If you are you may have to change that.
Personally for myself my FB is more for friends I've met over the years and I don't friend any family. Family can call or email me. So whenever I get a friend request from someone I know/grew up with or is family that I don't want to be friends with I just ignore it.
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I don't know why everyone says to ignore it when it's SO simple to make it so she literally can't see ANYTHING you do. So you can just accept the friend request and limit her to pretty much only seeing your profile picture. I think that's the simple solution and then there's no avoiding etc.
ETA: this advice is if you don't want to straight up tell her you don't want to be friends or that you aren't friends with co-workers on facebook (which has to be true because at this point she can see who you are friends with). Then, you can hide yourself from her so you're invisible.
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