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BR- Sleep help
Desperate Momma here; I apologize for the length.... we tried and failed for 5 hours last night to get him in the crib. I gave up and put him back in the ill-fitting swing. He has outgrown his bassinet. He slept a few minutes in the crib at one point, but my big butt made too much noise getting on the air mattress I put in the nursery and he woke up.
J has never been a good sleeper. I would love to co-sleep, but we can?t b/c of my soft mattress (our LC checked it and my guest room mattress out and felt they were too soft to be safe). The only way to get him to sleep is by nursing him down, which does not work for me now that I?m back at work. [J does not STTN (on a good night he?ll do one 2-3 hour stretch, then it?s just shorter spurts). The plan is for DH to give him a bottle of expressed BM so I could get some sleep. DH is a SAHD and I have a long driving commute so I don't want to get into a nursing to sleep habit]
We?ve tried swaddling, shhhing, white noise, cluster feeding, lavender scents, and music (NB- he cut a tooth, so that is complicating things). I accept that he is not ready to STTN and that?s fine- I?m struggling with where to have him sleep and how to get him down w/o nursing. I spoke with the pedi, who said CIO. I am unwilling to CIO right now. I am seriously considering buying a new mattress so we can get some sleep, but that doesn?t really address the nursing/driving issue. Is my only other option to just wait it out until he?s ready? The girls on my BMB recommeded persistance or co-sleeping. Please help; any advice/criticism is welcome. TY!
J has never been a good sleeper. I would love to co-sleep, but we can?t b/c of my soft mattress (our LC checked it and my guest room mattress out and felt they were too soft to be safe). The only way to get him to sleep is by nursing him down, which does not work for me now that I?m back at work. [J does not STTN (on a good night he?ll do one 2-3 hour stretch, then it?s just shorter spurts). The plan is for DH to give him a bottle of expressed BM so I could get some sleep. DH is a SAHD and I have a long driving commute so I don't want to get into a nursing to sleep habit]
We?ve tried swaddling, shhhing, white noise, cluster feeding, lavender scents, and music (NB- he cut a tooth, so that is complicating things). I accept that he is not ready to STTN and that?s fine- I?m struggling with where to have him sleep and how to get him down w/o nursing. I spoke with the pedi, who said CIO. I am unwilling to CIO right now. I am seriously considering buying a new mattress so we can get some sleep, but that doesn?t really address the nursing/driving issue. Is my only other option to just wait it out until he?s ready? The girls on my BMB recommeded persistance or co-sleeping. Please help; any advice/criticism is welcome. TY!
Re: BR- Sleep help
It seems like you guys have tried a lot of different things. Maybe just giving him more time and trying again in another month may do the trick?
We did CIO at 6 months with A and even though it was really hard at first, it was the BEST thing we ever did. She went from being horrible at bedtime to amazing. She is the easiest kid to put to bed at night. I highly recommend CIO or ferber, but I would wait until he's at least 6 months to do it. I know Pedi's say it's ok to CIO as early as 4 months but we just weren't comfortable doing it that young.
Ditto pp. We did CIO at 5 months after his monthly check up. The doctor said it would be hard but it would work. DH put him to bed that night (I was at work). He said he cried for 15 min and he slept almost 13 hours. I was sure it was a fluke but sure enough I did the same thing the next day for his nap and it worked! We continued every day since. He only gives me a hard time now cause he's 2 lol
You might want to look into a co sleeper that attaches to your bed. I've never used one but have heard great things. Of it may just be trial and error of him getting used to having a bottle to fall asleep until your ready to try CIO.
Wishing you lots of luck!!!
I am dealing with this now, except for BF I FF. J was amazing and STTN at 6 weeks and even now our routine for bed is awesome and takes roughly 4 minutes and he is out.
C on the other hand is a PITA. She is in bassinet around 10 every night. We haven't switched because of J and the room sharing. Though she sleeps in her crib when he isn't home. She is up at 3am and 7am for bottles. It drives me crazy because I am the only one who gets up and I was not ready for it since J was way different. She DOES sleep longer in her crib. So I am hoping that works soon, my biggest fear is her waking up and then waking up J so I would be dealing with 2 kids at 3am.
I wouldn't CIO this young yet either and wait until closer to 6 months, I am going to be trying it soon, and will let you know the results. All I know is she is SOOO different from J. He was so easy and this one is doing everything earlier and I was not ready for it. Also her high pitch squeals make me want to run away. LOL
Good luck. I feel like easy baby=hard toddler (J) so I am hoping hard baby=easy toddler (C?!)
just to wanted to let you know that you're not alone. A was an amazing sleeper. He slept through the night at 6 weeks. We hit the 4 month mark and he turned into a nightmare. we can't swaddle anymore because he is rolling himself over. he fusses in his crib. the only way he sleeps is if he's in bed with me and dh.
i can maybe get 3-4 hours out of him if i put the iphone in bed with him and play dave matthew's band on shuffle and repeat.
he fights me with his naps. i thought it was just me but he does it with my mom too. he napped from 9-10 then 1-3. but lately he has been taking 15 min cat naps. or he naps from 6-10. (like right now! ugh!!) and wide awake when its bedtime. sometimes i let him CIO for naps but not at night.
hopefully you get some sleep soon! i know im dying for a full night sleep as well!