Trouble in Paradise
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Why is it a surprise? Men are supposed to treat you well!
I have this friend that just started pseudo-dating a dude. Same chick that is seeing that I-am-an-enigma douchebag. I know she is all happy & shyt with him. Her last BF was a real loser who didn't pay attention to her & preferred the company of his sister to his GF (whole lotta messed up there).
Anyway, she sends me these texts with things like,"he held my hand in public!". I am happy for her but JFC it should not be a damned novelty that a man you are dating treats you well, right?!
I think he is just stringing her along until "better"comes along but she is being an idiot & not listening to me about it. So I am annoyed that she is acting like a teenager all doe-eyed & exclaiming about all this normal stuff that a man should be doing.
I am probably just concerned that she is going to get her heart broken. It just seems so sad that she is acting like she won the lottery with every move the guy makes. No real point to this post except to preface the likely TIP that may ensue.
Shouldn't holding hands & kissing etc. be normal dating behaviors?
Re: Why is it a surprise? Men are supposed to treat you well!
That's rough Betty. I have some "friends" (mostly on Facebook) who are like that too and I bite my tongue a lot. One of them finally ditched her loser boyfriend/father of her two kids last month and OMG I was so happy.
I hate when my friends say that their husbands are "babysitting" the kids so they can go to the grocery, do dinner with a friend, get their hair done, by themselves. I always want to post "It's not babysitting when it's your kid. We just call that parenting."
BFP #4 It's a BOY!
CP: July 2011
BFP #3: 11/3/2011 M/C 12/12/11
We miss you and love you always, little firecrackers!
We see it all the time around here dont we? WE have to tell women that how they are being treated by bf/h is not right!
And then of course we have my favorite "men are like that" that is the one that gets me all the time!! I've always said part of the reason why so many men treat women poorly is because so many women have LET them!
When you grow up in a situation that is lacking in respect and love - from your parents or father in particular, you tend to gravitate to men who are the same.
It was only until I started going to therapy to work on myself did I learn to make healthier decisions for myself, which eventually lead me to men who were not d-bags. I remember thinking, "wow! he did this or that" because my whole life I had gotten used to be being treated like nothing and accepted it because it's all I knew.
It's very hard to change that way of thinking and when you do and are attracted to man who respects you, it is an eye opener in a lot of ways.
Some women just don't know what love and respect is, it isn't always given for some people so when it does happen - it is surprising and exciting. Especially if they had a crappy upbringing and have had to work their way out of a very deep emotional hole and never experienced those feelings or knew they could exist.
Have you told her that? I can remember when I first started to date DH. My supervising teacher asked about him, and I started gushing.
She said "You know, that is how a man in a relationship should treat you." No one had ever told me that before, and it really made an impact.