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I'm Bored So Random Dating Post
Hi ladies,
I'm bored so thought I would pose this situation to you and you guys can tell me what to do hahah.
On Friday night I met a friend of a friend at a birthday party. We clicked right away - same sense of goofy humor and we both loved to dance. We danced together the whole night. Strangers were coming up to us saying we were the cutest couple. It was funny. We never kissed or anything like that - just dancing.
Anyway, at the end of the night, he asked for my number. My phone was dead so I couldn't get his.
Saturday early afternoon he texted me, "Hey it's C, if you're phone is charged now." I replied "Hi! The phone is happily charged now." Figured he did that so I would have his number.
And since then nothing. I thought he would ask me out for this weekend just because we talked about how neither of us had plans. I was thinking of inviting him to this cool happy hour place during the week that is near both of us. But idk do I just wait for him? It's only been a couple days so I know he could just be playing it cool but eh my life is gonna get really busy in a few weeks (since I'm going in for surgery) so I rather hang with him sooner than later. What would you guys do?
Re: I'm Bored So Random Dating Post
Give him the benefit of the doubt; this is only day 3. On the otherhand, if you're into him and want to go out, then just text/call him and tell him that you want to get together.
GL!
I'd probably respond cheekily..."Hmmm, now YOUR phone must be dead, since you haven't called to ask me out yet!
" or "I know I said that I didn't have any plans for this weekend, but if you procrastinate too much longer on asking me out, I might not be free anymore! :-P"
But, that's my style...do what works for you--wait it out, ask him out, whatever.
Calm down! You met Friday, corresponded again Saturday, and it's only Monday. As much as I hate to say this, the weekend's a long way off yet.
See how this all plays out. You very well might hear from him within the next few days, and if you don't, it's not necessarily about you. People get busy, life gets in the way. If you are really that into him, I don't see anything wrong with inviting him out to happy hour this weekend, but be breezy about it. Like, if you don't hear anything by Wednesday evening, drop him a text saying something along the lines of, "Hope you're having a great week. I'll be out with some friends at bar XYZ after work on Friday. It's a great place. Think you'd like to join?" Then see. If he can't, again, it's not necessarily about you. At that point, though, I'd hold back and wait for him to make the next move. Once you've made an invitation that's more than hypothetical, the ball is in his court.
I get that it's important not to throw oneself at one's potential love interest -- because everyone agrees that's creepy. I do balk, however, at the sentiment that women can't pursue. If you like him and want to see him again, there's no shame in asking. What's the worst that can happen?
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Haha I love your style! That is awesome and ballsy. Unfortunately, I don't think I could do it. Shucks.
I'm with Scooby...I'd say something silly/cute hinting at going out because that's my style. If there's one thing I've learned with dating, there are no hard and fast rules so do whatever you feel like doing.
This actually made me laugh! What did we do before cell phones??
Anyway, I agree with the others, there is no harm in inviting him out, but if it doesn't work out, its his turn to ask and I wouldn't try further.
This board is cracking me up today. Some posters are turned off by clingyness, others are turned off if the guy doesnt contact them ASAP!!
Men = Damned if you, damned if you dont. Only teasing!!!
Psst. Just like not all men are the same? Not all women are, either.
how did you survive before me, JM?
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I was totally thinking this too! LOL