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Saw the XH yesterday

He came to pick up some stuff. They were pretty big stuff and since I knew he shared a small apartment with someone (only has room for a twin bed in his bedroom) I asked where he was going to put all this stuff. He told me he had just moved to a new bigger place. He lives in someone's basement. He left his old apartment because someone shot a couple rounds and one bullet ended up in a chair in the living room. He was on the phone and saw it. Crazy.

Anyway, he didn't stay long. I am so glad I am not with this man anymore. I would have had a very sad life. He had a shittty childhood and as a result, wants 100% perfect happiness. He told me indirectly that the super life he had imagined he would have once single isn't happening. Also, the cat that I ended up keeping was afraid of him and wanted nothing to do with him when he used to be glued to him before. He loves the cat and I am sure he was hurt. All in all, I felt sorry for XH. He has been slowly realizing that me or the marriage weren't the cause of his unhappiness. 

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Re: Saw the XH yesterday

  • It seems like you handled it well.  Sucks that he's realizing this too late.  My XH also had an unhappy childhood and wanted perfection in life...those kinds of people will never be happy.  It is sad. I"m glad you're doing so well though.
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  • Ditto MCC. It sounds like you handled it so well, you've come a lot farther than he has.
    Vacation
  • That had to have been hard seeing XH like that. No matter what they did in the past, it is always hard to see someone you used to really care about in such a yucky position. But you handled it great! Good for you. Hopefully you are almost done dealing with him.
    **nestie formerly known as thegastons**
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