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How to 'cut the cord'?
My dh has told me we are going on vacation together or he is going to plan something with friends. I want to go but due to G's poor sleeping habits some how we have to due some 'training'. He stayed with my mom a couple of times when he was around one and it went fine. He has not always slept thru the night so leaving him with my mom seemed a burden. To this date he comes into our room most nights at some point and either sleeps on a sleeping bag on the floor or gets in our bed. The sleeping bag has been an improvement but has not as yet cured the problem. We tried leaving him at my mom's last summer. He got a little upset at bedtime, but went to sleep. He was awake crying after about an hour, wailing! I ended up driving down to my mom's at 10:30 at night because they feared he wouldn't stop. He went to sleep after my mom told him I was coming. Maybe he would have anyway but he may have woken again. He somehow manages to sleep in a state of alert. My thought is to have my mom stay at our house and then we stay at my brother's so we would be close. Then try to leave him at her house again. Somehow though I can't always come to the rescue. Any tips would be appreciated!We need to get away and G needs to let other loved ones care for his needs. Some of this is my own created problem, some of it is my ckild's little personality. TIA
Re: How to 'cut the cord'?
I have to assume this would work on a 3.5 year old because it worked on Ana but then every kid is different so take this with a grain of salt. lol!
Ana was up every 2 hours (since birth actually - sweet huh?) and making me lay with her until she fell asleep. At wits end I finally went to target alone (what a luxury!!) and picked up tons of dollar spot toys/crafts and several toys that were $3 and under.
I put them all in a box and told Ana that if she stayed in her bed all night she would get a toy in the morning. The first and second night, it didn't work and she was sad that she didn't get her toy, but we stuck to our guns and she wanted it badly enough that on the third night and thereafter she nailed it.
We gave her toys for like 10 days. When we started nearing the end of the toys I told her very clearly that when the toys were gone she'd be graduated to a big girl and that we'd use stickers instead because big girls use stickers. Somehow she was cool with that. lol!
I think this is a good idea. My parents did something similar with my baby sister at about the same age. Like PP said, stick to your guns.