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Wedding Album & all that "stuff"
What did you gals do with it afterwards?
Currently I have it all boxed up and put away in the garage ... maybe when my feelings are more sorted and healed I'll figure out what to do with it all.
Re: Wedding Album & all that "stuff"
I kept it and I am glad I did, because the X and his family lost everything in a hurricane (including all pics) and his grandfather recently passed away. So, I was able to provide them with pics of him (even though they are wedding pics). They were extremely grateful.
Oh and I gave the pics of the FG and stuff to their parents. The pics of me and the X were tossed.
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Mine is in my mom's attic. I figured I would save it for my son if he wants it. I'm not sure why he'd want it but at least he can have the option. I held on to my dress FOREVER because I didn't want to just throw it out, I figured I would sell or donate it at some point. It was in the cedar closet of my ex's basement (we lived together there when married). He finally made me take it out. I opened the bag and it was covered in mold! Oh, the irony (turned out that the whole basement was infested with mold!)
I have all of it in boxes at my Mom's house. The dress i donated, all the wedding gifts that were wedding related (monogrammed towels, wedding keepsakes) I either donated or threw out because some of it was incredibly ugly. I couldn't bear the thought of some bride to be opening those up at a bridal shower because her MIL bought them at a goodwill.
Most of my wedding pictures were on CD's....I think my XH still has those, not sure what he did with them. I have a few pictures of my X and I on vacation, or from our wedding day. They are all in the basement, in a box. I'm sure i'll throw them away at some point. No sense keeping them.
Not too long after XH and I separated, I went through our photos and tossed the ones w/ him and his family and kept the ones of just me or my family. I also took down and tossed our wedding frame that everyone signed.
For a long time I had my dress hanging in a closet and kind of forgot about it. I debated about donating it to Brides Against Breast Cancer or trying to sell it via consignment, but I never cleaned it and I just wanted it gone so finally (just a couple weekends ago) I donated it to Goodwill.
I do still have the negatives and a CD of all the pictures, which I'm not sure what I'm going to do with. I feel funny keeping them, but I also feel funny tossing them. They may just stay put away in a box in storage somewhere.
I still have my wedding album. I spent so much damn money on it that I can't bear throwing it away. I'm sure I also still have random pictures of my XH laying around in boxes somewhere but I haven't really checked and don't care enough to go sorting out pictures looking for them.
The wedding dress was donated to an auction at a school where my mom taught years ago.
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I left him the wedding album, but took the proofs. I also took my wedding dress and donated it.
The rest of it I pitched.
Its all boxed up in a container in my basement. I wanted to save it for DS just in case. It's not that big so it isn't taking up much space.
H asked to keep the album / pics (my family was feuding at the time, so most of the guests were from his side), and I let him. I have digital copies of everything on a "hidden" folder, and I'm still really good friends with the photog, so if I ever want anything I can get it. I also have a copy of the wedding video. He also asked to keep the guest book (same reason), and did.
H finally shipped my wedding gown (long story about why he had it, and about his #$(*-ish way of shipping it), and I need to either sell or donate it, as was my original plan before we got married. Though, lately, I've kind of thought about dying it black and using it as a formal gown. He didn't want the china, so he gave it to me; there's no way I'm donating Vera Wang china to goodwill, so it's currently taking up real estate in cases on top of my kitchen cabinets. I still love the pattern, and we never used it as a couple, so I'll probably end up keeping it.
I guess I was never terribly attached to our wedding "things." I gave my faux fur shrug to a girl on my knot board for free, with the understanding that she would continue the tradition of giving it to another bride on the board for free, and I think it's still being passed around. I did the same thing with our VW cake cutting set, and the toasting flutes. All of that stuff has been used at countless weddings at this point; I'm just glad others are getting to use them.
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Well I have thrown everything away, but that's what I do when I'm upset. I threw away all wedding pictures, signature mat, cards that he had given me, everything. I do have digital copies of most of the pictures I threw away, so I *could* re-print them if I wanted to. I doubt I will delete those, not yet anyway.
I do still have my dress, I never got it cleaned. I need to donate it to Brides Against Breast Cancer. But its been 4.5 years so I don't know if they would still want it.
My XH destroyed the wedding album in a drunken rage near the end of the relationship. I still have the CD with the all the photos in my possession, boxed up in the garage. The photos are also backed up with an online photo account. I never look at them, but I don't plan on getting rid of them because I have pictures of family members that I hardly get to see and don't have many photos.
As far as the rest of the wedding stuff, I didn't keep my dress after the wedding so that's a non-issue. XH destroyed the crystal flutes we had from the wedding in the same drunken rage mentioned before. I kept the silver cake cutting set because it's nice and it's real silver. I plan on selling the wedding and engagement ring as soon as I stop procrastinating about them. I don't know where the rest of the wedding stuff is (guest book, etc.)
When we first split I wept and looked at all those stupid pictures, so after a couple weeks I burned all of it so I wouldn't keep torturing myself. I had no kids, and I'll never see his face again (hopefully) so I don't really have a reason to keep any of it. My wedding in itself was a pretty miserable affair - my parents didnt even come - so I feel like the best thing for me is just to put it behind me. In ash form.
I do still have my dress, just because... I don't know why really. It was my first wedding dress.
I ceramoniously dumped a few picutres, cards, etc. over a cliff into the ocean (call the litter police!). Then I threw the rest in my dumpster.
Pretty much everything...the wedding dress is for sale, I sold the rings...all the "stuff" is in a landfill.
I feel fine about it. I do have the pictures on a CD though...not sure why I haven't tossed those?