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Cue the music....

To "Another One Bites the Dust"

I was starting to get a little anxious feeling that my date from Friday night was moving too quickly and more into things than I was.  I was trying to just ignore it and go with it but I had a bad gut feeling.  My main thing is I'm so busy right now with work and studying and DS, so any guy that I hang out with will have to really be respectful and understanding of that.

So I met him for a quick sushi dinner Sunday night and everything was fine but he was talking about wanting to see me Monday (I had the day off).  I told him I had DS all day and I was also busy so it probably wasn't going to work.  His solution was to suggest that he, DS, and I do something together.  I was like " I'm not having DS around someone I barely know, that's a mistake I made before I won't make it again". 

Then, last night he wanted to come over (after DS was asleep) and I told him I had to study.  His response "I'm just going to start driving there until you really say "no!".  Ummm, thought I just did.  I had to flat out say "no, that is NOT going to work" before he finally turned around.

I'm completely icked out and won't be seeing him again.

 

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  • Hmmmm, I guess he thought you were playing hard to get!?!? Stage 5 Clingers have been rampant these days! Sorry it didn't work out, chase!
  • Darn, I thought this guy had potential!  I'm glad you found this out about him early on though. And wtf at "really say no" - that guy needs to work on his listening skills, big time.
  • Sounds like you're pretty irresistible, A ;)  Sorry though, that sucks. 

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  • imageachase123:

    I had to flat out say "no, that is NOT going to work" before he finally turned around.

    Did he really start driving to your house?  Unbelievable.  That sucks that it didn't work out, he sounded promising.  Onward and upward!

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    imageachase123:

    I had to flat out say "no, that is NOT going to work" before he finally turned around.

    Did he really start driving to your house?  Unbelievable.  That sucks that it didn't work out, he sounded promising.  Onward and upward!

    Yes!  He texted back, well I am glad you caught me before I got onto the freeway.  Indifferent

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  • imageachase123:
    image+Black Kitty+:
    imageachase123:

    I had to flat out say "no, that is NOT going to work" before he finally turned around.

    Did he really start driving to your house?  Unbelievable.  That sucks that it didn't work out, he sounded promising.  Onward and upward!

    Yes!  He texted back, well I am glad you caught me before I got onto the freeway.  Indifferent

    OMG, what is wrong with these guys!  I had high hopes for him.  Keeping my fingers crossed you meet a winner soon!

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  • imageTEM325:
    Hmmmm, I guess he thought you were playing hard to get!?!? Stage 5 Clingers have been rampant these days! Sorry it didn't work out, chase!

    No kidding.

    Achase, you dodged another bullet.  Starting to think you are bulletproof..hahaha. 

    This guy brought you flowers into your office on Vday after only going on one date with you!!  It may have been thoughtful, sweet, whatever...but that is too soon for that move in my opinion.  I kept my mouth shut when you told us that, but I had a serious side-eye expression after hearing that.

  • Ugh, what is WRONG with these guys?
    The day I left was just my beginning.
  • imagejm5855:

    imageTEM325:
    Hmmmm, I guess he thought you were playing hard to get!?!? Stage 5 Clingers have been rampant these days! Sorry it didn't work out, chase!

    No kidding.

    Achase, you dodged another bullet.  Starting to think you are bulletproof..hahaha. 

    This guy brought you flowers into your office on Vday after only going on one date with you!!  It may have been thoughtful, sweet, whatever...but that is too soon for that move in my opinion.  I kept my mouth shut when you told us that, but I had a serious side-eye expression after hearing that.

    I hope you're right jm (about me being bulletproof)!

    And I agree about the v-day flowers. That was too much.  What was also too much was that he posted a pic of the flowers on MY car on HIS FB page.  I got the icky feeling at that time but shrugged it off because I thought "well, he's just kind of excited I guess???"

    Good thing is that with all of these guys I'm dating who turn out to be not right, I'm getting quicker at diagnosing that "off" feeling I'm getting.  I'm usually ferreting it out within a week!  That's progress!

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  • Yikes! That is kinda scary that he would just show up at your house. I will make sure no guy knows where I live till after a few dates. Glad you dodged that bullet!
  • imageachase123:
    imagejm5855:

    imageTEM325:
    Hmmmm, I guess he thought you were playing hard to get!?!? Stage 5 Clingers have been rampant these days! Sorry it didn't work out, chase!

    No kidding.

    Achase, you dodged another bullet.  Starting to think you are bulletproof..hahaha. 

    This guy brought you flowers into your office on Vday after only going on one date with you!!  It may have been thoughtful, sweet, whatever...but that is too soon for that move in my opinion.  I kept my mouth shut when you told us that, but I had a serious side-eye expression after hearing that.

    I hope you're right jm (about me being bulletproof)!

    And I agree about the v-day flowers. That was too much.  What was also too much was that he posted a pic of the flowers on MY car on HIS FB page.  I got the icky feeling at that time but shrugged it off because I thought "well, he's just kind of excited I guess???"

    Good thing is that with all of these guys I'm dating who turn out to be not right, I'm getting quicker at diagnosing that "off" feeling I'm getting.  I'm usually ferreting it out within a week!  That's progress!

    I haven't dated anyone yet but I think about what you've said on here about trusting your gut. And I'm going to make sure I try to follow it when something feels off. (I have been lurking forever but just started posting recently so I know your story.)

  • I applaud you for not settling with a guy who does not fit your lifestyle.  I am sorry he was not "it". Next!!!!
  • imageachase123:
    imagejm5855:

    imageTEM325:
    Hmmmm, I guess he thought you were playing hard to get!?!? Stage 5 Clingers have been rampant these days! Sorry it didn't work out, chase!

    No kidding.

    Achase, you dodged another bullet.  Starting to think you are bulletproof..hahaha. 

    This guy brought you flowers into your office on Vday after only going on one date with you!!  It may have been thoughtful, sweet, whatever...but that is too soon for that move in my opinion.  I kept my mouth shut when you told us that, but I had a serious side-eye expression after hearing that.

    I hope you're right jm (about me being bulletproof)!

    And I agree about the v-day flowers. That was too much.  What was also too much was that he posted a pic of the flowers on MY car on HIS FB page.  I got the icky feeling at that time but shrugged it off because I thought "well, he's just kind of excited I guess???"

    Good thing is that with all of these guys I'm dating who turn out to be not right, I'm getting quicker at diagnosing that "off" feeling I'm getting.  I'm usually ferreting it out within a week!  That's progress!

    Indifferent

    Holy Christo!!  That is beyond ridiculous. 

  • imageachase123:


    Then, last night he wanted to come over (after DS was asleep) and I told him I had to study.  His response "I'm just going to start driving there until you really say "no!".  Ummm, thought I just did.  I had to flat out say "no, that is NOT going to work" before he finally turned around.

    I'm completely icked out and won't be seeing him again.

     

     

    This just made me think of a rapist. "You're saying no but you mean yes" kind of thing CREEPY!!!!

  • imageDakotaDangerDog:
    imageachase123:


    Then, last night he wanted to come over (after DS was asleep) and I told him I had to study.  His response "I'm just going to start driving there until you really say "no!".  Ummm, thought I just did.  I had to flat out say "no, that is NOT going to work" before he finally turned around.

    I'm completely icked out and won't be seeing him again.

     

    This just made me think of a rapist. "You're saying no but you mean yes" kind of thing CREEPY!!!!

    Me too! Nothing like consent until proven otherwise! 

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  • "And another one gone, and another one gone..."

     

    What is wrong with these guys?

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  • What the WHAT???DUDE...way to doge a bullett there!

     

    And sorry...I'm with everyone else that had hoped it would work out!

    The Nestie formally known as....
  • Damn! You dodged a bullet for sure. A picture of your car on FB? Way too much. Hopefully he understands now and leaves you alone!
    I wouldn't change a thing...it's all led me to you.
  • Oh no!  That sucks.  I know that when guys come on too strong that is a MAJOR turnoff.  Good thing you saw the red flag now though :)
  • So sorry achase! Seems like we both dodged a bullet (but mine wont stop texting me...ugh)
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