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AE with Serious ?
When my husband was going through enlistment there were certain things the recruiter told him to do, that he is now seriously questioning and concerned with. I will list them:
1) Did you ever have asthma? DH told the recruiter he did for a short time when he was ten. The recruiter told him that if it's before 13 to say No. DH has now been going online and finding people who say the opposite.
2) Were you ever diagnosed with ADHD? Again DH disclosed to the recruiter that when he was around ten he was but he only took the medication for like two week, around the same age (10). The recruiter told him to put no. DH is now worried about this because he's reading online that the Army can and will access his medical records and if they find out he will be dishonorably discharged and maybe given jail time.
DH has about 4 weeks left that he can write a letter saying he has changed his mind on enlisting and start the process to not go in. He wants to go in so badly, but he is very torn at the moment because he doesn't want to risk a dishonorable discharge or ruining our future. He sometimes reads that the Army wouldn't go through his medical records but he's worried of the what if. That he signed something, I cannot remember what it's called, but something like a False Enlistment or False info... something saying that if he lied on any of it he would be dishonorably discharged.
Do you guys have any suggestions or information that could be of assistance. I posted this as an AE to keep my husbands information private. He is really worried and is making me worried.. Thanks.
Re: AE with Serious ?
A thought....see if your DH or his parents can still access records from that age and see if the actual diagnosis of asthma and ADHD is in there, if not, don't worry and move on.
A lot of people (myself included) don't remember everything they went to the dr for when we were 10. Our parents took care of us.
I think it'll be fine, but that is just my 2 cents.
Good Luck to you both.
I agree with this and what AF_EOD said. I had anemia when I was in the 8-10th grades from wakey periods. Like severe anemia, scale is to 12 mine was 5. It was awful. I've mentioned it to my doctors now and it could play a part when we have a baby but other than that most people neglect it because I've out grown it and have normal hemoglobin levels now.
Did you disclose this when you were enlisting? DH's fears are that because he didn't disclose it (he did to his recruiter but was told to check off no) if it is ever found when he's in that they'll discharge him.
He is very healthy now, he doesn't think he ever actually had either conditions. He said he was on an inhaler for like a week, as a person who had childhood asthma that doesn't sound right to me, And he was on ADHD medicine for a couple weeks and he went off of it. Around here anyways, Dr's definitely over diagnosed ADHD in the 90's, so I don't doubt that he didn't have that either. But I know he's nervous that they're going to accuse him of lying on his enlistment papers and discharge him.
I'm not enlisted. But never the less, I think it should be okay. Its a childhood illness and in all honesty he might not remember everything he has be diagnosed with over the course of his life. I would see if you could talk to another recruiter and see what they say if you guys are that worried about it.
Thank you.
We were told childhood asthma before the age of 13 just needed a waiver, which is why they said just to say no to it because it wasn't a big deal. The recruiters mgr (um.. more important sgt? I don't know the title..) said to check off no as well. If it was asthma as an adult it would be a dis-qualifier, but this would've just needed a waiver. In hindsight, I know he'd rather have just gotten the waiver!
I was not specifically told to lie about medical conditions. It was however, suggested to me that I be "unable" to provide physician contact information for medical records.
We know someone who was diagnosed with childhood ADD, and the OSO asked him rather persistently if it was a misdiagnosis. Having been a misdiagnosis, then he wasn't really diagnosed with it, get it? In this person's case, they had taken medication for about a year before a doctor told them to stop. They have had no issues since, apparently. They checked "no" and have had no issues after several years in the military.
Sadly, the hoops they have recruiters (and OSOs) jump through to get waivers is a pain, so many choose to avoid whatever waivers they think they can get away with. I don't think it should negatively affect your guy.
As long as he isn't effected by the asthma now, I wouldn't worry about it.
BTW, a very reputable Spec Ops Psych told us this weekend that 70% of regular Army soldiers and 95% of Spec Ops/ Spec Forces soldiers have ADHD. I have ADD and OCD. The Doc at MEPS told me he could care less.