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going "limp" in the middle...need input PLEASE!
Brief summary...my husband and I have a pretty normal sex life...the other night he was watching tv (around 10ish) I was upstairs drying my hair. I came down the stairs and he called me over to the couch because he wanted to have sex. He had a semi-erection at this point. So...I started giving him oral...everything was ok for about a minute or two. Then he said lets go upstairs and finish in bed (i thought was a lil off bc usually he cant wait and we do it on the couch, then again sometimes we do go upstairs and its fine) anyway, we get in bed, and I start finishing where we left off...and he just got softer and softer. I asked what was up , and he kind of laughed and said he didnt know, then went to the bathroom and came back to bed. By that time, I felt really horrible and like obviously he lost interest, or whatever. The next day when I brought it up he tried blamming it on having to go pee. Ya right. So what is this??? I keep thinking that maybe he was watching something on tv that excited him...and then he just lost interest in me....IM LOST?!?! PLEASE GIVE ME SOME FEEDBACK, thanks!!! also, no alcohol was involved
Re: going "limp" in the middle...need input PLEASE!
OK, most women don't understand stuff like this because they don't ask men about erections or don't want to know or whatever. I have always been fascinated by male..mechanics, if you will, so I always ask a bunch of questions about how it works, etc.
First of all, it's highly likely to have had nothing to do with you and whether or not he desires you. There are so much factors that go into men's erections. Attraction is only a small part of it, to tell you the truth. The temperature change from one room to another could have done it on it's own. Or maybe he had to pee. Who knows. Just know IT LIKELY WASN'T YOU.
Sometimes, it just doesn't happen. Men don't have as much control over their erections as we'd like to think. As long as it's an isolated incident, it's nothing. Really. Seriously.
My little angel RIP August 12, 2010 - September 5, 2010
If it has only happened once, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If it continues to happen (either he cannot achieve quality erections, or he cannot maintain an erection) there could be a medical issue. Either way, it probably has nothing to do with you.
My XH started having problems like this about a year into our marriage. The issue got progressively worse and worse until he finally found out he had low testosterone (after I threatened to leave if he didn't get checked out). Part of our breakup had to do with his unwillingness to deal with the medical issues that were causing the sexual issues. I also ignored everything for far too long because I didn't want to hurt his feelings by bringing it up, and that certainly didn't help the relationship.
Like I said though, it could be nothing. It probably is nothing.
If, however, this is happening too often, he needs to see a doc to get the issue checked out.
it could be either psychological or somthing physical.
His doc needs to run tests to rule out thyroid problems, hormone deficiencies, circulatory problems or cardiac probloems. If all of that comes up clean and green, it's probably psychological and a sex therapist can clear that up.
A man's dipstick for his overall general health is his penis/erections, the "same" as a woman's "red flag" is her menstrual period/menstrual cycle. If there's a problem with your penis/erections or periods, see your doc pronto.
Wishing you luck.
Yes, if this is the only time it's happened and it doesn't happen again, I think it's no biggie.
I guess your theory could be right, but it's just as likely that it could be wrong. I wouldn't dwell on it too much because you'll only drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out.
Heck, I have even lost an orgasm or two. Sometimes the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
If it's not a recurring thing, then it's no biggie. No, your theory doesn't sound ridiculous at all. But it could also be wrong. Really, most of the time THEY don't even know why it happens.
My little angel RIP August 12, 2010 - September 5, 2010
If you have ever had a missed orgasm you can relate, sometimes the clitoris can get overstimulated and just shut down therefore missing the orgasm.
Same can happen for penis.
And since you did stop and go to another room all that great blood flow return to the rest of his body and was just too tired to start again. Happens alot when we go for too long and change position too many times. And especially if DH was already tired.
Again it doesn't hurt to keep it in mind if it happens more frequently. :-)