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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
S/O related poll: Would you enter into a relationship...
Just hypothetically speaking, if you met someone you knew was fabulous and had everything you wanted...but going into it, you knew you would only have a limited time with them, would you enter into this relationship. Also, in regards to children, this person can have children, but might not be around to help parent or have the energy to parent "full time".
I'm giving 2 options here to make you choose, but feel free to explain your thoughts below.
[Poll]The Nestie formally known as....
Re: S/O related poll: Would you enter into a relationship...
Yes, ONLY if the person was everything I wanted in a partner which is pretty hard to find regardless.
If I learned anything in my life so far, that is nothing, nothing lasts forever. It is better to love a short time than to not love at all. If you are in love with the guy and you love his children, those children will become a big part of your life even after he dies. That is a wealth of love right there.
But I know the pain will come and nothing could prepare for me for that, that would be the fear right there is knowing it will hurt. Also, it is going to be the hardest time of your life aiding someone who is sick but very noble.
I couldn't force myself to pick yes or no. My husband died 17 months after a cancer diagnosis, so you would think that I would be okay with it, having experienced it and all. But if I knew, ahead of time, that someone had ddh's prognosis I simply would not be able to give my heart to him. I'd help him, I'd be his friend, I'd make him meals and spend as much time with him as he wanted. But I could not knowingly set myself up for that hurt.
So I guess my answer would be no. How sad.
This is my sentiment also. I answered no.
I voted no, but there are so many "it depends" scenarios. Thinking of the here and now, I'd be able to be a close friend to him, but I wouldn't enter into a relationship with him. I wouldn't have kids with someone who was terminally ill, and I very much want children, so we wouldn't be a good match.
yup!
I said yes. BF is significantly older than me, so even though he is in great shape, odds are that he will die while I am still relatively young. If he lives to 90, that would put me at 65. I'm walking into this knowingly and hoping to make the best of as many years as we can possibly have together. It would be a similar situation with a terminal illness.
The thing is, there are no guarantees--I could die in a car accident on the way home from work today. So, I feel like you might as well grab every opportunity that presents itself in life. All relationships end--it's just a question of when and how.
I forgot you two had such a large age difference! I can't imagine being 65 and caring for a 90 year old spouse.
True enough, but the more "normal" alternative is to be a 90 year old trying to care for a 90-yr old spouse, which is almost worse, since we would both be in rough shape by then.