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So moody today!
My boss is driving me crazy - he is such a micro-manager. Also, I went on a date on Friday, which went really well. He text before I even got home and told me he had a really good time. When I told him I did too, he said we should definitely plan on going out again, but we didn't make a definite plan. He text on Saturday, before he headed out of town to a house-warming party, and then we didn't text on Sunday. He text me Monday Night, and it was just kind of eh, then yesterday morning he left for a 3-day work conference (we work for the same institution but in very different departments), I initiated the first text in the morning, and then today is his birthday, so I initiated again. I feel so insecure because I never initiate! I just feel insecure because I am 35, he is 30 today - what would he want with a 35 y.o.?
Also, is this texting thing the norm? I like it because I don't want the awkward phone conversations, but if they don't ask a question, I never know if I should keep the text going! Just an off day today - I hate it!!
Re: So moody today!
Some people on here are dead-set against initiating contact, but I'm not one of them. Is he responding when you initiate? Are the responses positive and engaged in the conversation? If so, I think you're in the clear.
And don't feel weird about the age thing. My BF is 4 years younger than me, and in the grand scheme of things, it's no big deal. We both tease one another about it from time to time, but it's not an issue. And if he's dating you, it's clearly not an issue for him. Don't let your insecurity make it one. Just relax and enjoy!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
From what you say, it sounds like he really had so much going on with dating you, out of town house-warming party; 3 days work conference and his 30th birthday all within a week!!! I would give him some leeway on timing and texting. Personally, I think the texting initiated by both is a good thing rather than one person initiating all the time but that just me.