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Random WR thought

I am really glad that I got married when I did-- I was the first of all my friends to get married by a few years. I had no idea that wedding planning was such a "thing"...I never talked about it, it wasn't a big stressful burden, I didn't feel pressured to do it one way or the other or to try to out-do or match others' weddings. I have several close friends getting married this year and OMG the wedding planning talk is overwhelming. No one cares! It's just a big party?

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  • Yes

    People get so crazy about it. I was very laid back and easy going with my wedding planning. At a certain point, I just wanted it to be over so I could get on with the rest of my life with my best friend!

  • I almost wish we were getting married now, instead of when we were 24/25.  I think I was the opposite...I put SO much work into planning the wedding, but my friends who are getting married now are so much laid back about it.

    But who knows...I'd probably still have been the same way.  My BFF, who's getting married in April, still hasn't booked a baker or a DJ and it's stressing ME out!

    ETA:  I don't think I was 100% wedding talk all the time, but looking back, I made some decisions that I wouldn't have made now b/c I felt like I "had" to.  If it were now, we'd run off to Hawaii and get hitched on the beach.

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  • Oh, I feel you on that.   It can be hard to fake enthusiasm about all those little details that brides completely stress over, especially when you are laid back about things!  I would imagine you were an easy bride to work with, and another good benefit to getting married younger is that you didn't have pregnant bridesmaids like I did.  

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  • I heard my friends before and after I got married stressing out about planning and family issues. Ours was much more laid back because we pretty much "eloped" so we were both pretty laid back about it. I did have to yell at DH about not picking a suit and told him I would beat him down if he came looking raggedy. 

    None of my close friends are getting married this year but plenty of relatives and buddies from school are getting hitched. May be I will hear about the drama on fb. 

  • I just got married in November and was the first of my friends to get married... many are either single, or not even thinking about getting engaged anytime soon. It amazes me how much planning they're all doing for their own weddings now (with no intention of getting married soon) and I was pretty "eh" about it all. I mean, looking back I sometimes wish I cared more and it was prettier or whatever, but at the same time it was one day. It's over and done with. I'm married. End of story. 

    Honestly, my biggest concern was the guests. How can I keep them happy and full? Popcorn buffet, appetizers, full buffet, cake, and late night pizza. Plus a full bar, photobooth, and DJ. I think they were satisfied. The color scheme and little details were not as important.
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    . It amazes me how much planning they're all doing for their own weddings now (with no intention of getting married soon) and I was pretty "eh" about it all.

    This. I have a ton of friends planning weddings that won't happen for years (on Pinterest) and all I did was look for a dress and a venue and told my mom what flowers I wanted and that was it. 

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    Yes

    People get so crazy about it. I was very laid back and easy going with my wedding planning. At a certain point, I just wanted it to be over so I could get on with the rest of my life with my best friend!

    This.  I have a friend getting married in June, and I honestly forgot she was getting married for a second there because she's so quiet about it!  Then on the other hand, I have a friend getting married in January who is a complete bridezilla, and all she talks about is wedding planning, and how she's going to kick out her MOH because MOH wants to move for a career.  Confused  Lord help me, I'm a BM in that second one!


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  • I definitely took a project management approach to it.  I booked the best venue/vendors in my budget and let them do their jobs.  I didn't want anything special or unique; I wanted a great party for my family & friends.  Nobody gives a shiit about the details, so it's not worth stressing over.  To everyone else, it's just another wedding!
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    I am really glad that I got married when I did-- I was the first of all my friends to get married by a few years. I had no idea that wedding planning was such a "thing"...I never talked about it, it wasn't a big stressful burden, I didn't feel pressured to do it one way or the other or to try to out-do or match others' weddings. I have several close friends getting married this year and OMG the wedding planning talk is overwhelming. No one cares! It's just a big party?

    /vent

    This was my approach. I went at the planning as I would for any party. I think my florist was shocked when I walked in and said, "don't care what kind of flowers. Just these colors and pretty." That was the approach I took to everything. It was a giant party and I am pretty sure everyone had a blast. And at the end of the day? I was beginning the rest of my life with my best friend.

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  • I totally agree!  I got married a few years AFTER all of my friends, so they got out all of their wedding drama before mine came up.

    We did it just how we wanted without much drama.

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    imagegregslittlewifey:

    I am really glad that I got married when I did-- I was the first of all my friends to get married by a few years. I had no idea that wedding planning was such a "thing"...I never talked about it, it wasn't a big stressful burden, I didn't feel pressured to do it one way or the other or to try to out-do or match others' weddings. I have several close friends getting married this year and OMG the wedding planning talk is overwhelming. No one cares! It's just a big party?

    /vent

    This was my approach. I went at the planning as I would for any party. I think my florist was shocked when I walked in and said, "don't care what kind of flowers. Just these colors and pretty." That was the approach I took to everything. It was a giant party and I am pretty sure everyone had a blast. And at the end of the day? I was beginning the rest of my life with my best friend.

    Word. Don't get me wrong, I loved my wedding. It was perfect in my eyes. I did put a lot of work into planning it, I just didn't talk about it until my friends passed out from boredom. It was only a big deal to me!

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    Don't get me wrong, I loved my wedding. It was perfect in my eyes. I did put a lot of work into planning it, I just didn't talk about it until my friends passed out from boredom. It was only a big deal to me!

    Ha, I actually got sick of people asking about it/talking about it! I think I was mainly annoyed with getting asked "Are you excited?!" 

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  • I mostly kept everything to myself while planning my wedding because I know that no one else is going to care about it like I did and why would they need to hear aout all the mundane details. I don't want to hear about your wedding planning, so why do you want to hear about mine?

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  • I'm really glad we got married when we did, and I think that I kept the wedding craziness to a reasonable level. But I do wish I could change a lot of things. I think it's more that I've learned about myself and just my style so I would've made different choices now. Plus (this is really embarassing), our DJ talked us into playing this game where MH and I race to give people hugs for a dollar instead of doing a dollar dance. When I think about that now I seriously want to hide under the table I'm so embarrassed. Embarrassed
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    imagegregslittlewifey:

    I am really glad that I got married when I did-- I was the first of all my friends to get married by a few years. I had no idea that wedding planning was such a "thing"...I never talked about it, it wasn't a big stressful burden, I didn't feel pressured to do it one way or the other or to try to out-do or match others' weddings. I have several close friends getting married this year and OMG the wedding planning talk is overwhelming. No one cares! It's just a big party?

    /vent

    This was my approach. I went at the planning as I would for any party. I think my florist was shocked when I walked in and said, "don't care what kind of flowers. Just these colors and pretty." That was the approach I took to everything. It was a giant party and I am pretty sure everyone had a blast. And at the end of the day? I was beginning the rest of my life with my best friend.

    Word. Don't get me wrong, I loved my wedding. It was perfect in my eyes. I did put a lot of work into planning it, I just didn't talk about it until my friends passed out from boredom. It was only a big deal to me!

    Completely agreed. It was a huge deal to me (and creepily to my MIL), but I didn't want to talk about it with friends and family until they were bored of it.

     

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  • Heh people literally had to pry the information about my wedding plans out of me and even then I didn't know all the details because I didn't plan anything for my wedding. My mom did it all. I just didn't care enough lol.
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    imagegregslittlewifey:
    Don't get me wrong, I loved my wedding. It was perfect in my eyes. I did put a lot of work into planning it, I just didn't talk about it until my friends passed out from boredom. It was only a big deal to me!

    Ha, I actually got sick of people asking about it/talking about it! I think I was mainly annoyed with getting asked "Are you excited?!" 

    Indifferent I think I told DH at one point that I was going to smack the next person who asked if I was excited or ready, lol.


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