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What should I do or not do here?

So Mr. Winged has not spoken with his sister since our trip. I'm not sure if she's talked to anyone in the family. He doesn't bring it up with his mom a lot so she won get sad but at last talk, there was no contact. But I'm getting sad for him that here we are getting ready to have a baby and I'm just sad that he doesn't have any contact with his sibling who he had been so close to. And I know that he hates conflict and despite all that went down he doesn't want to go through life never speaking with her. (he has said as much). So do I just remain silent? Should I prompt him to reach out now? Wait until the birth?  I just don't want a sad husband. 

Re: What should I do or not do here?

  • I think you should leave it alone. If you can't leave it alone, I would just tell him that you are happy to support whatever he decides he wants to do about being in touch with his sister.
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  • I would leave it alone. I think if you do really feel the need to bring it up, wait until after the baby is born and the oxytocin is flowing.
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  • I'd let it be. It's hard but they have to come to the same place together, as much as you want to help. Just support him however he chooses to proceed.
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  • I don't know that I would push it right now.  Maybe just suggest that he call or text closer to your due date.  Babies make everybody squee.  Maybe that can be your tension breaker (yes, I am suggesting that you use your soon-to-be born child to your advantage).

    It would suck to push him and then have her still be a douche.  It would just re-open still tender wounds.

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  • You guys are right. I know it deep down. It just gives me the sads. And I feel responsible even though I know that's silly. 
  • Bake cookies instead.
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  • I would probably bring it up only to let him know that you are behind him 100% and that you know he's having a hard time with it. After that, I'd let it lie for now.
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  • I say leave it alone too.

    If he seems sad after the birth that he hasn't talked to her, the line from I don't remember who about you supporting him in whatever decision he makes is good.


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